ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 10:39 PM on Wednesday, June 30th, 2010
Hurting,
Many of these posts have been around for a while, and people have tried to keep them bumped to the front pages. But with our membership growing so quickly and posting so much they can get to the back before you know it! Once it gets to the end of page 25 a post is gone.
Luckily I saved a bunch and as I said they will be added to the Healing Library when our lovely leaders can.
I hope they helped!
[This message edited by ThriveNotSurvive at 4:39 PM, June 30th (Wednesday)]
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
AwareNow ( member #28387) posted at 11:50 PM on Wednesday, June 30th, 2010
Thank you so much for putting these all together! I will copy and past and use for the future.
I don't know much about SerJ. Was she able to repair her marriage? Is she a psychologist? Whatever she is, I'm very impressed!
D-day 12/09 and still stunned.
BW-me-mid 50s
WH-him-early 60s
Eyes wide open now.
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 12:25 AM on Thursday, July 1st, 2010
SerJR is one of our male members. He did divorce, but I understand he is currently engaged to a wonderful woman and is very happy.
So many of our members who have been here a while and are further along in thier healing stay to help out others. SerJr, just seems to focus a lot of his wisdom on helping those in JFO.
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
Broken10 ( member #27949) posted at 12:41 AM on Thursday, July 1st, 2010
Thank you, thank you. Just what I needed today!
SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 2:36 AM on Thursday, July 1st, 2010
Thanks for collecting this Thrive - you rock!! 
AwareNow,
Yes, I did divorce as my exwife continued to date other men after d-day and I told her I would rather make the marriage work - I wasn't going to accept that behaviour continuing. I am engaged to a wonderful woman and we are planning to marry in September.
Unfortunately, things have been rather busy with a career change and I haven't been able to post as much the past few months, but I still do pop in from time to time.
The one thing I can tell you though, is that no matter what - if you can stay true to your principles and keep faith in yourself that you will be okay
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
AwareNow ( member #28387) posted at 3:39 AM on Sunday, July 4th, 2010
Thank you for replying SerJR! I am honored.
It really seems that you have healed and moved on. Your journey in healing is an inspiration to us all. Thank you for all your hard work in writing your posts and giving hope to others. I'm new here, but I can see how grateful to you everyone here is.
And congratulations on the upcoming wedding!
[This message edited by AwareNow at 9:40 PM, July 3rd (Saturday)]
D-day 12/09 and still stunned.
BW-me-mid 50s
WH-him-early 60s
Eyes wide open now.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 9:08 AM on Tuesday, July 6th, 2010
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 3:42 PM on Tuesday, July 6th, 2010
I recently found out that Holly-Isis is the author of the wonderful "BS Bill of Rights" post.
Thank you so much Holly for taking the time to put together such a powerful tool! It's so helpful not only to the newbies, but to those a little farther out that need to be reminded of there rights.
A few of these weren't written by SerJr. If you wrote them or know who did please send me a PM so I can give credit to the author!
[This message edited by ThriveNotSurvive at 9:45 AM, July 6th (Tuesday)]
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 10:21 PM on Thursday, July 8th, 2010
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
Lotsa ( member #28078) posted at 8:18 AM on Sunday, July 11th, 2010
socold ( member #17400) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
(me)fBH 35
D-Day Dec 9, 2007
D final Oct 19th 2010
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 3:46 AM on Friday, July 16th, 2010
Bump
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
feelingstupid09 ( member #22946) posted at 5:03 AM on Friday, July 16th, 2010
WOW, thanks so much. These are great. I am not JFO but boy these helped me.
thanks again!
BS: me 52 (not feeling stupid now)
WS: him 50
DDay 2/7/09 gave me most of it, but full
disclosure came 8/30/09 about 15+ years of hookers/strippers/other women.
We are reconciling; we will make it.
Married for 23 years with 2 beautiful children:
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 5:31 AM on Monday, July 19th, 2010
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 4:21 AM on Thursday, July 22nd, 2010
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 5:58 AM on Monday, July 26th, 2010
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 3:07 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2010
sharonons ( member #24462) posted at 4:40 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2010
This is so awesome. Im on my second d day and post quite a bit in the divorce and seperation forum. I kicked him out.BUt this helps my soul heal a little bit. I have posted them to word and read them when i need a boost. thank tou so much.
SuspiciousWife ( member #18108) posted at 3:46 AM on Wednesday, July 28th, 2010
another bump, just in case
Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session
ThriveNotSurvive (original poster member #22093) posted at 10:44 PM on Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010
Bump
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
