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Emotionalhell (original poster member #39902) posted at 11:36 AM on Thursday, December 20th, 2018
I just started reading Healing from Trauma by Jasmin Lee Cori.
It explains how trauma changes your phsiolology. Only 3 chapters into it and I can’t wait to finish reading. It has already described how the trauma of infidelity mentally affected me. Talks about getting stuck in fight or fight in response to trauma.
I will give an update when I finish reading.
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 4:43 PM on Friday, December 21st, 2018
Thank you for posting this...I cannot wait for your update!
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
Joy1984 ( member #69133) posted at 12:46 PM on Saturday, December 22nd, 2018
Thank you for the book suggestion!
BS (34) to SA/WH (35), together 7.5 years
DD#1 - 6/7/2018 (thought it was just a one-off)
DD#2 - 8/20/2018 (more to the story)
DD#3 - 8/22/2018 (learned of SA and hopefully the whole truth)
Reconciling
burninghouse ( member #63308) posted at 4:00 AM on Thursday, December 27th, 2018
Thank you for this book recommendation!
BW (me)
WH (him)
D-day 3/2018
Divorcing
Reminding myself often, "The last of the human freedoms: to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Viktor Frankl
Candyman66 ( member #52535) posted at 1:14 PM on Thursday, December 27th, 2018
It sounds like a book I should read, I've been stuck in "fight or flight" for 58 years! (I'm 69 now)
gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 5:34 AM on Saturday, December 29th, 2018
I’ll put it on my list.
I’m reading” the body keeps the score”.
It’s amazing (and long) and very helpful.
I’m gonna have to actually buy it!
He does a great and very thorough job describing the physiological changes, the history of ptsd Dx (including conflict with an psychological Assn and the DSM not including trauma that builds over years), etc.
I’m about 1/3 thru it, but highly recommend it.
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M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies
Emotionalhell (original poster member #39902) posted at 1:49 PM on Saturday, December 29th, 2018
Gmac94 please give us an update when you finish.
I’d like to know if it tells you how to heal.
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 5:19 PM on Saturday, December 29th, 2018
I am going to read "The Body Keeps the Score" also by Van der Polk. 
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
Emotionalhell (original poster member #39902) posted at 9:48 PM on Sunday, January 6th, 2019
I am almost finished reading this book. A little up date for those that may be interested. Reading Healing from trauma has helped me understand my symptoms, the way I react to triggers and that you can get “stuck” in some emotions. The book has also made me deal with some buried childhood trauma that I had never really digested which can affect how you deal with current trauma. The book gives many non traditional ways of dealing with the trauma. This is definitely a book I will be keeping and refer to as needed.
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Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
Topic is Sleeping.
