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There is a trash can right outside the HOH I filled it up. Leave a lot of the garbage there.

The work you did in the House of Mirrors was excellent, you are the prize. He is lucky you invited him to R-Land. He needs to go get that turkey leg for you.

Recently I felt a small urge to go back to Trigger Tower but my W said “you sit here and finish the funnel cake, I got this”.

Great work on your journey so far, wishing you luck on this part.

Oh yeah, dude for sure owes me a turkey leg! Lol He’s definitely participating in this one. Perhaps we will throw some of the garbage away together. Not quite ready to put it all there just yet, but a pretty good chunk of it.

I really believe he realizes how lucky he is to even be here in R-Land. He shows me on a daily basis. I’m finally able to let him without being snarky about it. Actually feeling worthy of such effort really helps with that.

I’ve discovered there is a kiddy version of trigger tower. It’s not near as high, and the drop isn’t quite as fast. I find myself more on that one than the adult version. Not to say I’ll never be buckled in for that ride ever again, but it’s nice to not experience it on a regular basis.

Thanks, Tanner, for always being one of my few. :)

[This message edited by Underserving at 10:44 PM, April 9th (Friday)]

Thank you for this. As others have said it certainly hits the mark. I cannot seem to stay off of the That Time Together Was Wonderful so Brain Must Sabotage the “Up” with a Rug-Yank and a Freefall Back “Down” ride. Even when I'm enjoying a ride on the lazy river, I jump off and head back. Almost 2.5 years since Dday and these rides are exhausting!

Bumped by request.

This thread is really good, some of the newer members to R might enjoy it.

Trigger Tower has been closed for maintenance for a while so me and my W are sitting outside the tunnel of love about to go in. 😀

Underserving- thanks for this brilliant thread, really enjoying it. I love your insight.

Tanner- wow, awesome job keeping with the metaphors, Tunnel of Love is my goal!

GTR- ugh we are very close on D-day dates. Sending you strength.

I didn't know "Sabotage" was even a thing! I thought it was just me....FWH has pointed out many times we have a great day/night and the next day I am distant and angry 😠

This thread is renewed at just the right time for me.

We are heading out tomorrow evening for a 3-day belated anniversary trip--so Happy Times Teacups.

I will try to avoid Sabatoge Falls...but I do try to call it like I see it.

Yet, isn't that the rub? After the D-Day rollercoaster drops that are woven between walks down Trickle Truth Alley, after my fWH queuing us into all the longest lines (read foot dragging) for Healing Heights, it's hard to trust my judgment sometimes.

For me, sabotage & reality checks are holding hands together as I cling to the Protect-Myself-fencing that surrounds almost every ride in this damn park.

I try to unwind their grip from each other, I really do. But that fencing sustains me. I'm not ready to let go, and honestly, my fWH hasn't yet done all the work to make it a safe choice.

Still, I'm ready to enjoy and look for the good this weekend. Why waste a lovely break from work, etc?

Wish me well!

Wow. This is an amazing thread. I’m spending most of my time right now on the monorail of flatness, with side trips into a house of mirrors where I distrust my perception of everything—myself, my spouse, my marriage, my life . . .

My husband and I are having a weekend getaway this weekend. I want to be excited about it, but I just feel flat.

OMG.....I love this thread. So apt! How about the trust, but verify carny game.

Hopeful0729

The sabotage is a real thing. As you described, after a great time together, my brain would say "yea but" and anger would hit. It wasn’t until I started letting go of the anger that it calmed down.

BreakingBad and Grieving
Go enjoy the weekend, stay on the Happy Time Tea Cups.

Ladybugmaam I will never fully trust the Carny Games again, I stay away from them.

This was one of my favorite threads, bumping it for all the helpful information, we also had fun with it. Some young Tanner here.

I appreciate the bump. Such a fun way to feel connected to this community. WS said "I don't think I can make it through 2 years of this" while we were going through "Not Just Friends" together. Really made me connect with this:

When we went back we started in Kiddy Land this is where you feel like a babysitter, you sit on a bench reading SI while the WW runs around having a great time, like nothing’s wrong

So far, it's been entirely me leading the way through R-park and it's hard to hear that it feels so difficult for her.

In an EFFING nutshell.

Bump

I really enjoy this thread, its a fun exercise with the struggles of R

We were in the house of mirrors the last couple of weeks and now headed to the tunnel of love for the weekend. Let’s just say I have some making up to do and I plan to do a lot of it.

I can't believe I missed this thread, which started 10 years to the day after I joined SI. Now I'd like to hear from some of the folks who posted on this thread but don't post anymore. If you're lurking, I hope you drop in to say 'Hello.'

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I’m so thankful this thread got bumped. It reached me at just the right moment so thank you to all of you. I am on the monorail of flatness with a few breaks to ride the tower of triggers. It’s still so exhausting.

Now I'd like to hear from some of the folks who posted on this thread but don't post anymore.

I miss Underserving she so helpful in our parallel journey.