Topic is Sleeping.
FlipFlopFlamingo (original poster new member #71914) posted at 4:07 PM on Thursday, March 4th, 2021
I made it to my anti-versary. One year ago yesterday was my finalization date. I honestly didn't even realize it until last night. If you would have told me at this time last year that things would be as good as they are now (which some of you actually did), I never would have believed it. It has been hard, it has been turbulent, and there are still challenges and uncertainties. But life has always had those things. Being able to address them on my own and with the support of good friends, family, and special people in my life, is like night and day from anything I have ever experienced in my life.
Thanks so much to the people here that take time to provide advice and wisdom. I honestly could not have done it without the knowledge that I have gained here.
I am still in therapy. I have a wonderful woman in my life. My kids are happy and adjusting well. I don't have a lot to complain about. Life doesn't always turn out exactly as you plan it. But it is nice to realize that if you maintain your character and self-worth, no matter what the circumstances, that the sun will come out again.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 4:16 PM on Thursday, March 4th, 2021
Always loved your name. Glad things are looking up!
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 5:14 PM on Thursday, March 4th, 2021
I know exactly what you are saying!!!
The best decision I made for my children and me was to declare our property lines as our safe zone from the world. No chaos, just a safe place to just “be”. And thankfully that meant their Dad couldn’t be in our zone. Our life is so much better! We are worse off financially, but such a better life!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:50 AM on Friday, March 5th, 2021
Yeah flip flop!
You go flip flop!!
Wtg
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
countrydirt ( member #55758) posted at 4:55 PM on Friday, March 5th, 2021
3 adult sonsMarried 32 years. DDay1 - June 2016, DDay 2 - April 2017, Final DDay - May 2020. Divorced - January 2021
Life is Good!
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 6:24 PM on Friday, March 5th, 2021
Great update! Very happy for you and I hope it continues. Your attitude is excellent!
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 7:28 PM on Friday, March 5th, 2021
Fantastic update FFF!
homewrecked2011, we did the same thing here. Their dad has been here only a handful of times in the past 4yrs (he lives a 10minute walk from us). This is a house of peace, no chaos from addiction. There is no hurt here.
May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.
*********When you know better, you can do better*************
Topic is Sleeping.
