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I have 3 guys interested in me

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 freetogonow (original poster member #57821) posted at 5:50 AM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

A cowboy, a recovering drug addict, and an emotionally unavailable divorcee with anger issues.

I told my sister it’s like I’m reliving 1990

The church guy, I cannot get a bead on him. I’ll see him again in a few days.

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Karmafan ( member #53810) posted at 7:04 AM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

The cowboy sounds nice

Me 48 XWH Irrelevant D-day 23 Feb 163 amazing, resilient kids

You are not a drop in the Ocean, you are the entire Ocean in a drop

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 9:00 AM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

I get it. I really do. Thanks for the laugh.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 12:20 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

The cowboy sounds nice

Mmm hmmm. This.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 1:19 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

I vote cowboy lol

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 2:34 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

I'm still voting for the church guy, but then again I'm a guy so I don't get the whole cowboy attraction...

[This message edited by grubs at 8:35 AM, April 20th (Tuesday)]

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 freetogonow (original poster member #57821) posted at 3:52 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

Cowboy: super nice in person but terrible online presence. Our politics do not jive at all. This may be a problem. Also he has weird hair though lots of it. He got it cut recently and looks much better.

Drug addict: 15 years sober but still goes to meetings, good for him. Looks like a fat jack nicholson. Also is the type who thinks he’s in love with any woman who is nice to him.

Angry brooding emotionally unavailable: Arguably the hottest of the group but does not seem to know how to talk to me.

Church guy: The one I actually want but he doesn’t like or comment on my Facebook posts and pictures (I’m

On vacation righty now and posting tons of stuff daily) even though I can see from the stalker feature on the app that he’s online.

Whereas the other three do comment and like.

My friend sagely said, “it’s always the ones you aren’t interested in who give you all the attention and the one you want who ignores you. Don’t you remember that from when you were 16 years old?” 😂😂

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 4:07 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

Church guy: The one I actually want but he doesn’t like or comment on my Facebook posts and pictures (I’m

On vacation righty now and posting tons of stuff daily) even though I can see from the stalker feature on the app that he’s online.

Defending my guy...

Facebook shows you are online if you have the app installed on your phone. He may not see your posts if he doesn't use FB much. I have it just for the messenger client. FB also has a goofy algorithm to decide which posts show up in your feed. I know I can go months without liking any post. Does he post on FB? Have you liked one of his if he does?

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 freetogonow (original poster member #57821) posted at 4:15 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

It takes more than having the app installed. The list of people across the top changes as people actually open and close the app. He is on only very briefly like for 10-15 minutes snd then will be off. But he is not very tech savvy, he has a computer but no internet at home because he doesn’t use it. He only goes online on his phone, he told me.

He posts very sparingly. Like once a month.

I’ll get a better feel when I get back into town in a couple days. I have not texted him since I’ve been gone nor he me. I felt like I was coming on too strong and needed to give him some space.

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twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 5:03 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

Keep yourself out there and don't settle with the first.

I multi-dated last summer.....yep during a pandemic. It gave me a really good reason NOT to get physical with anyone even if I wanted to! All our dates involved walking with a coffee. Anyone that didn't like that option didn't get a date lol.

I ended up seeing 2 of them (they knew that) for a few dates and ultimately chose my favourite, whom I'm still with and he's everything I wanted. I wasn't physically attracted at first, but his personality and passions ended up sparking my interest. Now, he is the hottest guy I know because he's just so GOOD.

The sky is the limit for you.

May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.

*********When you know better, you can do better*************

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josiep ( member #58593) posted at 9:22 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

I'm so disappointed in all of you cuz I was just sure someone was going to take this opportunity to post the perfect joke. "A cowboy, an addict, a divorcee and a minister walk into a bar........."

BW, was 67; now 74; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017

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 freetogonow (original poster member #57821) posted at 9:34 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

Josiep you are hilarious!!!’

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 11:45 PM on Tuesday, April 20th, 2021

I was thinking this thread was going to head in the direction of the old school dating game show where we as the "live studio audience" get to help vote on the contestants...

And this:

"A cowboy, an addict, a divorcee and a minister walk into a bar........."

That's an oldie, but a goodie. How does it go again josie?

PS: good on you freetogonow for your new beginnings!

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 3:35 AM on Wednesday, April 21st, 2021

I've had people message me in the middle of the night asking why I'm awake because my messenger is showing active - wake up to those messages in the morning very confused because I was asleep in bed like the lil angel that I am. I wouldn't put too much stock in FB messenger showing him as active.

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 freetogonow (original poster member #57821) posted at 5:06 AM on Wednesday, April 21st, 2021

Ok I’ve been posting vacation/travel pics for a week.

Church guy FINALLY liked one.

It wasn’t a picture of me, it was a picture of my friend 😂😂

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 3:43 PM on Friday, April 23rd, 2021

Ok I’ve been posting vacation/travel pics for a week.

Church guy FINALLY liked one.

It wasn’t a picture of me, it was a picture of my friend

Ouch. FWIW from my experience it easy to like by accident on a touch screen phone.

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barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 5:06 PM on Friday, April 23rd, 2021

I don't like much on Facebook... just FYI.

I either comment with words or I don't respond at all.

Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.

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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 5:26 PM on Friday, April 23rd, 2021

Every time I see this subject line, I think I'M RUNNING DOWN THE ROAD TRYING TO LOOSEN MY LOAD I GOT SEVEN WOMEN ON MY MIND

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grubs ( member #77165) posted at 1:04 PM on Saturday, April 24th, 2021

I'M RUNNING DOWN THE ROAD TRYING TO LOOSEN MY LOAD I GOT SEVEN WOMEN ON MY MIND

That has always seemed the opposite of taking it easy to me. My wife drove out to Az with the middle child last summer as their first real job was there. Drove through Winslow on the way.

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