Ok, I'll bite, if only for any lurkers reading along with this saga.
I am headed for D, pretty sure, unless Andi completely takes responsibility for minimizing her A and owning the damage she equally caused to our marriage.
Ok, so, you're leaving the door open? Even if it's just a crack? That doesn't sound like 100% to me.
Which makes this statement
But I consider myself a free man at this point. OW stopped by last night, we went to dinner, and we ended up at her place. I spent the night and it was wonderful!
um... odd. How's that going to work?
And, DF:
I don’t think he’s cheating on his wife. They are separated and heading to D.
While he's leaving the door open, and it's with a prior AP. What would we call that if it was just a plain old WS returning to the AP? I mean for me, that would be a continuation, not a new chapter. It's not like there was an interregnum for the OW - it sounds like she's had the throne since their A. 
MyAndI, could you explain this statement?
I'm no longer hiding anything
Because I wonder at the congruence of the history provided in your posts. I want things to work with my wife, I hate OW, my wife is unremorseful, I love OW.
Man, I think I got whiplash. I know I would have in your shoes, anyway.
When we drop fear, we can draw nearer to people, we can draw nearer to the earth, we can draw nearer to all the heavenly creatures that surround us. - bell hooks
