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99problems (original poster member #59373) posted at 3:43 AM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021
Hey y'all, just checking in.
I am doing so much better. I won't pretend that every day is sunshine and unicorn farts, but every day that goes by finds me settling into this life of being a single parent, and learning how i do that and find my happy place.
I've been into podcasts lately (lol 10 years later than everyone else) because i drive for work hours daily, and got really tired of my inner monologue. It has been a game changer, and I'm sure a lot of you are shaking their heads at that, but it just goes to show you how we each need a very individual method of coping with shit.
So many posts on this site are "how do i deal with this?" And the answer is, "only you can know."
It makes infidelity and divorce infinitely more lonely and depressing in a way. Yet i can say that once you find out your thing, that you feel even better discovering it on your own than you would have if someone would have spoon-fed it to you online.
Anyway, just my weird ramblings, hope you all are finding your own peace in your own weird ways.
Also i got a kitten, he's fucking awesome and his name is Shadow.
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
beb252 ( member #78948) posted at 11:20 AM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021
Good job! You're healing up pretty well!
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 6:48 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021
So glad you gave an update! Shadow huh? That's a great name!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 7:07 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021
Pets help SO much. I ended up getting custody of my xwh's cat in the D, and The Stig has helped me so so much with everything.
99P, I am very happy that you're doing better these days. Amazing how much life improves once you're free of the cheater's BS, yeah?
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 10:55 PM on Wednesday, June 30th, 2021
Glad for the positive update. Things are better once out of the grip of the narc.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:02 AM on Monday, July 26th, 2021
Shadow sounds like a cool guy!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
J707 ( member #63778) posted at 4:05 AM on Monday, July 26th, 2021
Good for you man! I found singing along to songs I want to play on guitar on my commute fun. 5am drivers are like "wtf?" 
I don't care. Podcasts are cool though. I need to get back into that.
While this whole thing is a process, there is a sense of peace and calm after. Almost unknown. Healing is a trip after the shit storm that was laid upon us. You're doing great! Shadow sounds awesome! Enjoy the little kittie!
stubbornft ( member #49614) posted at 3:51 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021
99problems such a great update! Man pets are the best!!!! Can you share any podcast recommendations? I listen to them while I work (still working from home, since COVID) and I am getting burned out on my regulars.
Me: BS 40 Him: WS 51 He cheated with massage parlor sex workersDday 01/19/2021
Kicked him out in 2021 - life is better on the other side. Moved on with the help of a wonderful therapist.
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