Topic is Sleeping.
maise (original poster member #69516) posted at 4:40 PM on Wednesday, August 18th, 2021
And or related to moving past aversions or disgust feelings likely brought on by prior sexual traumas?
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BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 2:57 AM on Thursday, August 19th, 2021
Raising hand...do you know of any resources/books?
Me-BS-65 in May<BR />HIM-SAFWH-68<BR />I just wanted a normal life.<BR />Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
maise (original poster member #69516) posted at 3:17 AM on Thursday, August 19th, 2021
I don’t 😕 I was hoping to get suggestions from peeps on here. It’s something I’m sorting through that is so challenging, a good book would be nice to refer to. Buuuuut if nothing comes of this forum I’ll totally as my therapist on Monday and if she has suggestions I’ll post them here so we can both benefit 😊
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
aprilfool1985 ( member #56750) posted at 5:50 PM on Saturday, August 21st, 2021
Hi Maise! I am also interested in any references you might find. Thanks for your search.
Me: BS, of a certain age Him: WS, of a certain age +3 events in question around 1985, M 1988, several adult children
maise (original poster member #69516) posted at 9:30 PM on Monday, August 23rd, 2021
Lionne & Aprilfool1985
Went to therapy today, the suggestion she had for now was what she said is an oldie called Courage to Heal. Last night I was also digging around and found a book called Life, Reinvented: A Guide to Healing from Sexual Trauma for Survivors and Loved ones by Erin Carpenter which I was considering getting. It got good reviews. I also ran into (and often heard about) The Body Keeps the Score however I’m not sure if that one would be good for this scenario also…
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 11:58 PM on Tuesday, August 24th, 2021
Thanks! I'll check them out.
RE The Body Keeps the Score...I absolutely believe in the premise and I think I'm living it. But I found the book short on ideas about what to DO about it all.
Appreciate the research.
Me-BS-65 in May<BR />HIM-SAFWH-68<BR />I just wanted a normal life.<BR />Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
maise (original poster member #69516) posted at 2:55 AM on Wednesday, August 25th, 2021
Thank you Lionne! I read a few reviews on it as well and had gathered from the reviews that it may not be exactly what I was needing right now. It seemed to be more educational and recounting of stories but I wanted something that delved into solutions just like you mentioned. I appreciate you letting me know 
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
Topic is Sleeping.
