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FuturewasStolen (original poster member #74119) posted at 11:51 AM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
I apologize in advance, I'm sure this question has been asked many times before. But I'm now getting to that *fun* time of putting together the first draft of the divorce settlement. Besides child support and custody/parenting schedule, what do you all suggest I put in it?
I know I already want to put in a detail that says all extra activities are split 50-50 (camps, sports, ect.) Is there anything else that I should think about?
TIA!!
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 1:06 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
This is by no means a comprehensive list, but here goes:
Who carries the children's health insurance, and how out-of-pocket medical expenses are to be shared.
Expenses for automobiles and insurance--how are those split
Expenses for cell phones
You had already mentioned extracurricular activities, but that's an important one
How will college expenses or private school expenses be shared (and what constitutes college expense).
With all of these, put in a clause that indicates how quickly (I recommend 30 days) the other party is reimbursed
How much notice either party must give if they are not going to exercise their parenting time (emergencies excepted, of course).
If the two of you need to agree on something, put something that indicates consent is not to be unreasonably withheld.
I'm sure others will have more information.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
Crazytrain101 ( member #48200) posted at 1:30 PM on Monday, October 3rd, 2022
FuturewasStolen,
I'll add the following as I'm working on the same:
No overnight guests of the opposite sex in the home while children are there.
Mandatory therapy for kids until age ?
Car insurance for kids through college, trade school wtc.
Purchasing of a vehicle for children, car repairs, maintenance
College education accounts
Attorney fees paid for non-compliance to parent if you have to go back to court
Extra-curriculars
Who pays for health insurance--out of pocket, deductibles
Requirement for other parent to obtain a passport for travel (the other parent has to be physically present)
I'm also looking for suugestions and following
8 years ago-found out he was a serial cheater-Reconciled-2015 Back again September 2022 as WH is a cheater again Heading to Divorce
Simplicity ( member #60501) posted at 5:09 PM on Friday, October 7th, 2022
Also who claims them as dependents on taxes (is it every other year or whoever has them the most?). And if your state allows it and you are the one collecting child support, have it collected by the state, rather than direct payments to you.
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 2:44 AM on Monday, October 24th, 2022
No overnight guests of the opposite sex in the home while children are there.
I understand the sentiment here is to prevent revolving-door hookups, but what happens when someone gets remarried?
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
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