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I just went in to renew my US license and get a Real ID. My name isn't the same as my birth certificate, so I brought the only piece of paper I got after getting married - a "Certificate of Marriage Registration". I'm not living anywhere near the same State in the US that I got married in, so that probably played into the situation I just had. All of the people in the DL office and the mailing I got about renewing and Real ID wanted me to have a document that was titled "Certified Marriage License". We had a "license" and it was permission to get married. The "Registration" document says when it was and that it is "on-the-books". Different terminology, but you wouldn't believe the hassle they gave me that it wasn't a document that their state issued with that certain wording.

Has anyone else been given grief about the title of the certified documents that they use (for anything)?

I'm going to be advising my daughters not to bother changing their names if they get married. Too much hassle in this day and age.

When my H was setting up his pension he needed to send the pension office a copy of our marriage license. I can't remember exactly why but they rejected our original document. We had to contact the township office where we were married and get new documentation. My brain is foggy so I can't for the life of me remember what was wrong with the original document.

I have not done the real ID yet. What a pain everything is when changing your name. Pastor me wishes I kept my own name.

I feel ya. I didn't change my name when I married (thank goodness!!) BUT..... my middle name is spelled wrong on my birth certificate - hilarity ensues when dealing with any governmental agency about anything!!

In my current country, you have to register with the commune (village / town / city) where you live. That was ok because I had already dealt with my passport so my name was ok. But to get the residence permit, you need not only your passport but also your birth certificate and marriage certificate, both official certified copies within 3 months of the date of submission. So I got those, but then the powers that be balked about the different name spelling between my birth certificate and other docs. So then I had to explain that the spelling was wrong, then that explanation had to work its way up the food chain, etc....

And by the time they said 'ok', it was after the 3 month deadline so I had to re-get certified copies bla bla bla.

Same thing happened when I applied for citizenship here - there's a preliminary round of 'data collection' for all the docs, you send them the docs and they enter it into their computer, they send you back what they think you sent them, you have to correct any errors and re-submit, they look it over again and it takes so long that you have to re-get the stupid docs. You get the picture.

Anyway, several months and several hundreds of dollars later, we (finally!!) made it through the 'data collection' phase and into the several rounds of interviews and other administrative hoops. And became citizens here (and renounced US, that was another whole bureaucracy shitshow and several THOUSANDS of dollars......)

Why not just get a passport instead of Real ID? I imagine it's a similar amount of hassle but overall more valuable. Or is it that Real ID is going to become the de facto / de jure driver's license?? Or can you go to a social security office and get a card in your name? Might be easier....

Why not just get a passport instead of Real ID? I imagine it's a similar amount of hassle but overall more valuable. Or is it that Real ID is going to become the de facto / de jure driver's license?? Or can you go to a social security office and get a card in your name? Might be easier....

With life getting in the way, I always planned on getting myself a passport. I made sure both of my daughters got passports before college while they were still minors. While I was submitting the paperwork for the youngest one, I showed my birth certificate to the passport pre-processing official (in the same state as I in today) to get their feedback on it because it was an old one printed very soon after I was born. They said it was "just a Certificate of Birth Registration" (again from the same State as the "Certificate of Marriage Registration") and not a "Birth Certificate". It isn't from the hospital nor is it from a religious ceremony for a newborn/baby - it is from the state office of health

So I planned on requesting a newer "Birth Certificate", but only got to it after Covid (the state office whereI needed to ask for it was backlogged/closed then for a while). The new paper says "Certified Transcript of Birth" - the DL folks didn't have an issue with that one. All I know is that I need either a Real ID or a passport to fly next year. My DL needed to be renewed this month and if I sent in my new BC for a passport application, I was concerned it wouldn't come back in time for the DL renewal for a Real ID or it would get misplaced/lost in the mail and I'd have to order another one. After my hard-card DL arrives in the mail in the next week or 2, I'll get that passport application going.

One thing I did learn from getting my new BC was my exact time of birth. I was told a general time of day.