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Is it rude to tell someone you can't make it to dinner (the next day) because you forgot you had plans with somebody else?

We have dinner for five planned for tomorrow night. DD's boyfriend sent me a text letting me know they are having dinner with his dad. He said he was sorry he forgot about it.

I am irritated. I am trying to just let it go but this is not the first inconsiderate thing he has done. And I am wondering why DD didn't call me to talk about it and maybe adjust our plans or something.

Yes I would be annoyed. I'm a direct person so I would probably say ... it's too late to change plans so just bring your DAD to dinner with us.

Ok so the holidays can be a nightmare for many young adults, they have divorced parents, their partners have divorced parents, and they may even have to work part of the holiday, but everyone expects to spend ameal together.

It's tough. Plus they also deserve to have some quiet one on one time enjoying each other.

So yah it's rude, but I wouldn't sweat it. I would offer to have his dad over like Jeannie said, but not be forceful about it, just saying well we will have plenty we were reallylooking forward to all of us being together would he like to come, can I have his number and ask him directly?
If he goes for it great. If not let it go.

It's just one meal, on one holiday. Reschedule for after the new year.

Agree with others. Invite Dad over, he may or may not come. Kids (how old is this boyfriend? Im guessing 18-23?) forget stuff and esp if he has multiple homes and groups to see. Divorced parents, gf family, then his friends, and gf....

If he is always canceling id be madder. But just right now? Dont sweat it

Thanks everybody!!

Inviting his dad was a good suggestion but they were having a family dinner with a bunch of people so that wouldn't have worked.

DD ended up deciding on her own to have dinner with us because she had already told us she was coming. She spent the day with her boyfriend and they will be together today. It all worked out. She was very happy to see us and enjoyed her dinner.

He is 32.

Stay warm. Merry Christmas!!!🎄

It sounds like it worked out great. Good for DD to make that work.

My sister and her family, me and my family always went to my parents for Christmas Eve, then we spent Christmas Day with our kids. As our kids and nieces became adults with their own in-laws it became very difficult and hard decisions had to me made. My mother would keep adjusting times and dates to accommodate everyone until I finally suggested make a day and time and give a no pressure invitation, if you make it great, if you don’t, Merry Christmas see you next time. Seems this worked out for you.

Merry Christmas

[This message edited by Tanner at 3:09 PM, Sunday, December 25th]

Thanks Tanner!! We did end up having a nice weekend. It's hard because we only have one child, a small family and many deceased relatives so if DD doesn't come it's just us and one sibling.

We were very appreciative that she had dinner with us and she and her boyfriend came for some of Christmas Day.

I'm very grateful.