For me, it took about 9 months to a year. By that time, I'd healed enough to know that the A was all about XWH and his decisions. I never really factored into the equation at all. When I realized that, I was able to get over the hump. How's this for dissociation? I pretended like I was watching a movie and replayed their interactions in my mind. I realized they were in their own little world and I wasn't even a blip on the radar. (Mine was a double betrayal, so I know AP.)
Plus, the BASGU (bad ass sparkly goddess unicorn) speech from Chaos really helped.
You are a BASGU, so now it's time to act like it. Go buy yourself some beautiful undergarments and wear them. Throw away any worn out undies. Then, buy an outfit or several that make you feel absolutely fabulous when you wear them. YOU are worth it. If you wear make up, then use it to your advantage. And it helps if you get some bitch boots to wear with your outfits.
My XWH's AP was less than a year younger. I had lost over 100 pounds, but AP outweighed me from before my weight loss.
Adam Levine cheated on his wife who is a Victoria's Secret underwear model. Look at all of the gorgeous singers and stars who have been cheated on.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
