No stop sign.
I am going to seek counselling for my behaviour and
Make sure your counselor is versed in infidelity and is willing to hold you accountable. No unmet needs, blame shifting or rug sweeping. Also urge your betrayed wife to get into counseling with someone trained in trauma, betrayal trauma if it’s available in your area.
Is there anyway back for our marriage?
Maybe, but not your former marriage. That one is dead. If your BW is willing, and if you both can do the work, a new marriage may be possible. Welcome to your marathon. Your barefoot and haven’t run more than a half mile in years. When you feel sorry for yourself remember her first fifty yards are over broken glass.
What have you done to assure her that the affair is over? Gone no contact with your affair partner, even if that means finding another job? Given access to all of your electronics and social media with all passwords? Turned on location tracking?
What reading have you done? How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair and Not Just Friends are two to start with.
Your post will be moved to the Wayward Side as you aren’t allowed to post in Just Found Out . Listen to the advice the former waywards will have for you. Urge your BW to post here for support.
