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Rolltide9630 (original poster new member #80796) posted at 4:53 AM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2023
I’m a BS trying R with my WW. I am going to start IC and would like some advice on what to look for in a therapist. My WW is already in IC.
I’m having a tough time with everything.
Any advice on picking a therapist?
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:23 AM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2023
If you can find a betrayal trauma specialist with infidelity experience, you hit the jackpot. EMDR can be helpful for certain scenarios.
But find somebody who is a good fit for you.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
HardKnocks ( member #70957) posted at 7:19 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2023
Congratulations on making that decision! It was certainly a game-changer for me (and hopefully mine).
As has been mentioned, a betrayal trauma therapist is a good bet, as is someone with infidelity experience. You have a right to interview the therapist.
But some of what makes the experience worthwhile is going to be subjective; it's really a matter of a good fit.
Ask yourself how you feel during the session, and especially at the end. Do you feel relieved? Heard? A little hopeful?
You'll eventually want a treatment plan that outlines your short and long-term goals. But that usually comes after you're happy with the fit.
Bring all your questions to the group. People here can try to help you sort it.
Rolltide9630 (original poster new member #80796) posted at 4:00 AM on Friday, September 15th, 2023
Thanks everyone, I’m looking now. I’ll let you know how it’s going.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 4:37 AM on Friday, September 15th, 2023
Your employer may have an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) that allows you to have a few free sessions. Check with your insurance to see who is within your network. Almost everybody has a website, so check them out. See who appeals to you in their philosophy and see if they have openings.
My second therapist specialized in grief and betrayal trauma, among other things. She didn't have infidelity as a specialization, but was so helpful in my healing journey.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Stillconfused2022 ( member #82457) posted at 3:52 PM on Friday, September 15th, 2023
There has been extensive research done studying the outcomes in psychotherapy attempting to determine which factors contribute to the highest success in terms of overall improvement in patient/client wellbeing. The data consistently shows that the primary determinant of the outcome is the relationship/bond between the therapist and the client. There is little distinction between the different types of therapy (CBT, DBT, insight oriented, TF-CBT, EMDR) in terms of how well you do. But there is a big distinction between doing therapy with someone you can connect with and someone you can’t. It is completely okay to interview different therapists, i.e. meet with them for a one hour introductory session, and then decide which one you connect with the best.
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