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I missed adding in my last response, that even though we are both happier with the work being done, conversations happening, I think we still struggle with some things. Even though I have been doing my own work, checking in with her, almost everyday, she's still careful and not wanting to be close with me. She is protective of herself. All is understandable. I would say it has been like this for just over a year. We talk about it and she explains why she feels like this and why she needs to be protective of herself. The talks we have aren't always smooth, but by th3 end things are smoothed out and we both feel better. W see both agree that we want our marriage to continue and to have a happy marriage. Not a marriage where two people exist in the same house and act like casual roommates. I think we are both seeing the future together and are willing to put in the work needed to get the marriage to that point and keep it.

Just another small check in. So I had a birthday over the weekend. My wife did get me a card for my birthday. She told me she needed to get one the day before, so I asked her, are we getting birthday cards for each other? Her birthday is the same month as mine. We have been having our check ins with each other. Those have been doing well. We both are continuing our ic sessions and those seem to be going well. The work that I have been doing is helping my wife and helps me. I asked my wife at the beginning of this month, if there was anything I could do to help her in the next couple of weeks. This is the month that her world came crashing down and she found out about my affairs. Her response was that she was happy I brought it up and i asked what I could do, but she thought it wouldn't be needed. Not that she won't have times or things that trigger her, but she said she didn't think it would be too much of a problem.

[This message edited by Wolfpack1 at 3:43 AM, Friday, February 9th]