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One thing I have told here before is after Dday and implementing the 180 i always present my best self. That includes farting in front of my W. To this day almost 5 years later, I do not fart or burp in front of my W. Honestly it’s her loss, she is missing out but things are lost in infidelity.

Rule number one in R is honesty and integrity. We just had a discussion today about a couple of active threads here I was telling her about. I was telling her the bottom line issue is a lack of honesty and transparency.

Well tonight I was in the room alone and let fly. She was outside or something. Comes in immediately and says "OMG did you fart?" I panicked and immediately said "no!!" I lied and tried to TT but it was obvious. I confessed.

She said "isn’t honesty and transparency number one?" Then said "when are going to confess on SI?

In a fun and lighthearted manner, here I am, confessing. I did it!!! I farted, I lied about it, I feel shame. She forgave me 😀

[This message edited by Tanner at 4:32 AM, Tuesday, August 13th]

LOL! Great transparency story, Tanner. My mom was one married to a man who didn't know that women farted. She schooled him very well. She had a lactose problem and loved ice cream.

I commend you for your honesty and transparency.

My mom was one married to a man who didn't know that women farted. She schooled him very well.

I have always said my W is one of the most proper Ladies I know, my Mother is the other one. I don’t think they do that.

Somewhere, a fart signal is going out to notthevictem.

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GOOD for MRS.TANNER for holding your feet to the fire Coozann !! I am just happy it wasn't while you were "doing the deed" or something could have been caught on fire!!

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HAHAHA! This is awesome!

Before DDay, I would never admit that I farted. Now we rate each other for volume and quality.

Sometimes you have to let go of the outcome and let ‘re rippppp!!!

I will say that now that we no longer live in our RV there is more space to get away from those stinky situations :-) In a camper you basically Dutch oven anyone who dare enter.

One time, my youngest and oldest were watching a movie. DS3 fell asleep in my lap. Oldest DS was on the floor. All of a suddeb, this horrible stench wafted my way. My eyes watered and I was choking, reaching behind me to open the window. Oldest DS was smiling, and youngest woke up crying. "What's that smell?" It was so bad that I remember the smell nearly 25 years later.

LoL, I have enjoyed all the responses. I do want to add that denying a fart is an instinctual response and does not reflect on a person’s overall integrity. It’s a free pass IMO 🤣

Tanner, out of curiousity, what is the underlying goal or belief of keeping a polished version of yourself front and center? No judgment here, I’m genuinely curious. You said this is a new reality born out of the affair. What is its purpose for you?

I’ll say that I am now doing far more self care than I ever have before in my life. Shaving more regularly, dressing nicer, added a cologne to my daily hygiene routine, getting fit. Is it in that spirit? I could definitely see the appeal of retaining the mystery in a relationship with things such as flatulents

Tanner, out of curiousity, what is the underlying goal or belief of keeping a polished version of yourself front and center?

Thanks for asking I have thought about this and the best answer is, when I made positive changes, my life changed for the better. I fixed so much I'm not sure what one thing is working, so I choose to wake up every day and present my best self to everyone.

I give zero credit to infidelity and all the credit to the 180. After Dday 2 my self esteem was shit. I took a hard look at myself and I had let so much of myself and my life get away from me. I was so numb that I only ate because I had to. During this time I tried new food, I cleaned my diet, and started exercising, I split my company and went on my own, I went changed everything, including growing a sweet beard.

I am very proud of where I am today, I look ten years younger and am in the best shape of my life. I don't want to ever go back to pre 180 Tanner, so I continue to maintain my personal standards.

Makes sense. Thanks for sharing. Keep on keeping on, brother. 😎

Makes sense. Thanks for sharing. Keep on keeping on, brother. 😎

What if one day I fart in front of her and suddenly loose all my hair and gain 50 lbs? I can’t take that chance 🤣🤣😀