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Hello everyone.

It's been 4 months since I have seperated from my husband. I don't regret leaving the house. I don't have any kid.

I am pretty sure I am not going back. But the complete and utter loss of the love, the companionship, the power of having a house of my own is all lost.

I still love him and he has been outstanding throughout the relationship. Just that last couple of years he changed and started the affairs and behaviour also changed. Yet he tried to complete all his responsibilities towards me.

But what he did was not a mistake. It's a crime- exposing me to physical ( STD), social and psychological trauma. So I decided to leave.

But due to the previous good actions of his. And general life, I don't know how to put it. I miss him. I miss the house, my things... I keep crying at odd triggers.

Just sharing. Don't know when will I get out of this.

I do find support here in this group.

Thank you for being there.

The pain is completely normal. You had an attachment bond. So sorry. Does he want to reconcile? Or are you both set on divorce?

Hello to you, and sending my best wishes that your tears will soon cease. You are amazing! He did not deserve you. Yes, he had nice things to offer. You are worth more than any of those things you left, please keep telling yourself this.

Hi woodthrush2-

No he didn't and still doesn't want a divorce... Why would he? It's me who knows I have to seperate. Just hurting a lot.

Thanks for your support. Love this platform.

Hi Superesse

Thanks a ton for your support. Hope I overcome this trauma soon. It's hurting my old mom and it kills me to see her sad.

You have suffered a trauma and your feelings will overwhelm you at times. It is normal and to be expected but it still hurts.

Have you thought about some professional therapy? It can help you figure out the major decisions you need to make.

Hello
I haven't taken counselling. It's not such a trend in India so ..

You're a very strong person and I admire you for refusing to tolerate infidelity.

So sorry youre facing this. Of course you miss him, or the "him" you thought he was. Soul ties and the attached emotions take a long while to diminish.

Are you in IC? Do you have close & trusted friends and/or family members you can confide in? You need people on "Team Foolsparadise". Dont tough it out or go it alone.

Strength to you.

Of course you miss him. You loved/love him. But he wasn't loving towards you, he was happy to put you in harm's way.

It will take time to adjust, for your heart to catch up with your head in accepting that your life wasn't what you thought it was. I have found that the hardest part to get aligned. I thought "this", but it was really 'that'.

I sorry that you're struggling.

I agree with everyone else that you will get used to your new normal.

One day at a time.

Hugs to you

Do you have a good group of friends or a few people who are supporting you right now?

In real life you need to be able to talk about this. It will help you.

Thank you all for your response.

I do have my mom(76) and brother.
I have aunts and a goodie bestie friend to talk to. That's why not going to counselling.

But can't overburden my mom. And I feel you people understand and feel the core of it all. So I love sharing here.

I had a late marriage so it feels like I have lost something because my team member let me down. I still love him. I cry at the beautiful moments and the very lost and broken "happily ever after" of mine.

I am searching for a job to get busy n start earning.

But fate is cruel.

Will write soon.