cocoplus5nuts (original poster member #45796) posted at 6:46 PM on Friday, January 30th, 2026
It's good to hear that he is trying to meet with an IC. I hope he follows through.
Thanks for the suggestion. We had a MC session last night. I was ready to stop the MC for now. He wants to continue at least until he starts IC. I think that's a good sign.
He has been doing more self exploration and is more willing to talk about it. Before, he said he was doing it in his head, but not sharing. That made it hard for me to believe him, especially when his behavior didn't change. Last night, he admitted that the IC he attempted several years ago wasn't helpful because the therapist only wanted to focus on me. My H seems to understand now that he needs to focus on himself, his childhood, and his attachment patterns.
We went over the fact that he needs to tell me when something I've done upsets him. It's infuriating that he doesn't tell me, but holds it against me. I can't change if I don't know there's a problem. 🤦♀️
