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Long ago, I read the novel Madame Bovary, and of course there are movie versions, but one has to go to the novel. I don't know if you read much, but I might recommend that for insights. I think there are certain people who tend to live in fantasy and who want princess lives or the perfect match or the perfect this or that, and that's not the way life is, and they reject things that might be good or fine or even great for them....for a fantasy that is not really attainable...and maybe they even assure that it's not attainable, but even if they keep it hidden, it can still cause great damage just from the lack of truthfulness, money they may spend, hours stolen away, and problems that come up with the AP who has his own whole set of desires and interests. It may seem silly to recommend a novel, but sometimes they explain things or show things we find it very hard to understand otherwise. Just a thought.

Ya know....people have to work at marriage and kids, they don't just happen and everything is magically taken care of...some people just really don't want to do the work.

"even has some serious criminal charges that are going to land him as a registered sex offender once sentenced"

Sorry, but this. Whenever I hear about someone being romantic with such a person, let alone exposing the kids to them, let alone planning to live with them (and the kids?!), I think they completely lost it, or never had it in the 1st place. She's not a safe person, not only for you. How can she be trusted as a mother? Do you think you really know her?

[This message edited by Itiswhatitis000 at 10:25 PM, Monday, June 15th]

IIWII00 - Yeah, that can't be allowed, and I think your question really sums up a lot of things....I don't think he really knows her. I think she's kept who she is and what she really thinks and wants, well hidden for years, and I'm not sure she can ever really BE honest. To me, this is a person with bad judgment who lives in fantasy. Those are bad qualities in a mother, ask me how I know.

Revenge porn is a thing. Look it up. I just hope it doesn’t happen to you.

Oh yeah.
Some AP don’t even do it it for revenge at all.

The AP tend to be such a high value person, someone who just cares so dearly about our wayward, that exploiting webcam filmed videos of their conquest to put on porn websites for a few bucks and an ego validation is just natural.

Maybe with prostitutes compilation as beside your wayward they are just too shitty of a person to have much luck with normal partners. Either pay whores or find a an idiot that will do it for free.

Ask me how I know.

Not a nice sight to find out that on the internet.
On the other end helps to build the timeline and cut through lies and bullshit. You can always find the positive angle in anything I guess.

So yeah @Op she is an idiot for doing that.

Hopefully you won’t have to experience that shitshow and your kids won’t find out visuals of mommy with a fat greasy ball of lard when they grow older. Maybe mixed in with skunks prostitutes and a captivating title 😆

Brother put yourself first.

What you want, need and your own healing is the only thing that matters now.
She wants to make amends?

Good.

But you set the rules.
There is no but. Don’t like it? We are done.

Is the 180, don’t relent unless you see radical changes.

Is for your own sake.
And believe it or not, forgers too.