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BearlyBreathing (original poster member #55075) posted at 5:55 AM on Friday, April 28th, 2017
I am reading this as part of my healing...but it is not dazzling me like it has done for others. Why did you like it? What spoke to you?
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
annanew ( member #43693) posted at 6:43 PM on Friday, April 28th, 2017
Yeah, I had the same non-reaction.
For me, it was because she seemed to be speaking to people who are perfectionists or aspiring perfectionists or recovering perfectionists.
I'm ADD. My life is chaos, and always has been. I've long given up beating myself up over imperfections because I would be beating myself up ALL THE TIME, 24/7. To me the message that things don't need to be perfect feels a bit like someone telling me I don't need to reach the top of Mt Everest, when I'm just trying to get up off the couch. :)
Single mom to a sweet girl.
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 7:34 PM on Friday, April 28th, 2017
I discovered Brene Brown several years after I found myself here at SI. At the point, I had mostly healed from the infidelity and divorce, and was focusing on myself. It did speak to me, a lot, of my need to be a perfectionist.
To me the message that things don't need to be perfect feels a bit like someone telling me I don't need to reach the top of Mt Everest, when I'm just trying to get up off the couch. :)
And I needed to learn that even if I couldn't reach the top of Mt. Everest, I still needed to get off the couch and get as far as I could go. Reaching the top shouldn't be my goal. Attempting something new, that I'm probably not going to be good at at first, is a worthy goal, too.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
hurthumiliated3 ( member #56189) posted at 9:10 PM on Monday, July 10th, 2017
I thought this book was just ok, but I am reading Rising Strong right now and like it a lot more. It is giving me a lot to think about. The Gifts of Imperfection did help me get started on thinking about vulnerability, which is scary for me right now. My WH is reading Daring Greatly and he likes it because he is not a big reader and her conversational style is easy for him to follow.
Me- BW, mid 30s
Him(Fake Husband)- late 30s, 6 week PA with COW
3 kids, 15 years married
Dday Oct 2016
BearlyBreathing (original poster member #55075) posted at 6:53 AM on Tuesday, July 11th, 2017
Hmm...okay, makes me want to try the other books. Thanks for your input ! 📚
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
sunwillshine ( member #47200) posted at 10:42 PM on Wednesday, July 12th, 2017
I liked Rising Strong and daring greatly, better.
D-day 2/12/15
5 DD (3 his, 2 mine) all grown
married 9/97 together 8/94.
Moved back in 5/30/16 working on R
unbelievable24 ( member #59102) posted at 4:51 PM on Thursday, July 13th, 2017
I've listened to a lot of her books, but not recently. Maybe it would be a good distraction from the mess that is my marriage.
Together 18 years, married 16
DDay #1 May 18, 2017 (MightyText - Ho Bag #1)
DDay #2 June 20, 2017 (Printed 6 mo phone records - Ho Bag #2
2 (Admitted) EAs
0 (Admitted) PAs
Me: BW 49
Him: WH 49
Topic is Sleeping.
