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Hippo16 (original poster member #52440) posted at 2:57 AM on Wednesday, February 21st, 2024
Curious how other vet a book?
I look up reviews first and hit amazon first (easy to find)
and I read the lowest reviews first.
I just looked at "To Good to Leave, To Bad to Stay" - and found the lowest reviews - revealing.
"Religious based" - "Guide on how to justify leaving marriage" - etc.
OTOH - I bought "The Body Keeps the Score" and reading the worse amazon reviews - got the idea the posters had little interest ing serious thinking.
I read the whole book and I will say it is a difficult read - not up with "Solid State Physics" but takes some thinking to read
successfully.
I found it helpful understanding my long term emotions regarding my "cheater"
How do you vet a book?
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:16 PM on Thursday, February 22nd, 2024
I will usually check Amazon and read low, middle and high reviews. I will also read the author's bio. Most of the time, I will also Google the title to see what other reviews are out there. Goodreads is usually a place I'll check for reviews.
With some books, I will also go to YouTube to see if the author has any videos. I'll watch some to see if there are any red flags on some of their other items.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 4:15 PM on Thursday, February 22nd, 2024
I joined an online book group called LibraryThing in 2007. It lets you create a database of your library with rankings, reviews, tags and ratings. There are millions of users, and a lot of them are librarians, authors, and serious readers. They can be harsh but fair critics of books and you can get an idea how good a book is by looking at the rating summary and reading the reviews.
A lot of my reading friends use Goodreads, but I was already a few years into LibraryThing and prefer it for a reading resource. My experience with Amazon reviews is that there is always a contingency that both loves and hates every book. I reported one reviewer for giving every book he read, dozens and dozens of them, one star and scathing reviews, including a number of the classics. What a tool….
Anyway, if you are really interested in crowd sourced book reviews, I can’t say enough about LT, and it has given me so many great reading recommendations.
Happy reading!
PS it’s free!
[This message edited by whatisloveanyway at 4:16 PM, Thursday, February 22nd]
BW: 64 WH: 64 Both 57 on Dday, M 37 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays from 2017 - 2022, with five years of trickle truth and lies. I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, or trying to.
Hippo16 (original poster member #52440) posted at 5:59 AM on Sunday, February 25th, 2024
I have goodreads and have not looked at reviews there
going to look up "Library Thing" - sounds more like what I'm looking for
Thank You Both!
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
lrpprl ( member #80538) posted at 6:30 PM on Monday, February 26th, 2024
I usually read the lowest rating reviews first. I look carefully at the language the writer uses to see if they are literary minded and know what they are writing. If there are misspellings or incorrect language usage, I ignore them as being serious.
Then I look at the highest ratings. If there are embellishments I ignore those also.
In other words, I try to find intelligent writers who are realistic in their assessment of the book.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:38 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2024
I believe Goodreads is an Amazon company now. Thanks for the librarything reco, though it, too, is partly owned by Amazon through Abebooks.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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