Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 8:48 AM on Monday, July 4th, 2016
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
mchercheur (original poster member #37735) posted at 8:10 PM on Wednesday, July 6th, 2016
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 34 years/Together 35 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:06 PM on Wednesday, July 13th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 10:08 PM on Monday, July 18th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:28 PM on Thursday, August 4th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:13 PM on Thursday, August 18th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 1:20 AM on Monday, August 22nd, 2016
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:38 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2016
bump
[This message edited by minusone at 6:38 AM, September 8th (Thursday)]
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 12:38 PM on Sunday, September 11th, 2016
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
mchercheur (original poster member #37735) posted at 12:12 AM on Sunday, September 25th, 2016
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 34 years/Together 35 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
justbreathe74 ( member #53605) posted at 3:23 AM on Monday, September 26th, 2016
Thank you for this post- just what I needed to read right in this moment
Me BS
DD 20, DS 25
1st dday online EA October 2000
2nd dday PA Jan 5 2001 resulted in separation. R sept 2001married sept 2003
3rd dday June 8 2016 EA possible PA
separated jan 2017
Divorce filed February 2018
Divorced as of May 2018
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:49 PM on Wednesday, October 5th, 2016
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:02 AM on Tuesday, October 18th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:23 AM on Tuesday, October 25th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
TurnOtherCheek ( member #55194) posted at 11:58 PM on Tuesday, October 25th, 2016
This is me! #4. All day. Every day. Why?!!!
4. You will never truly understand your WS’s choices.
Why? Why? You’ll keep asking yourself this. You will want to spend a lot of time and energy trying to figure out how your WS could do such a thing. You couldn’t imagine betraying your spouse in such a way, so you can’t wrap your head around how your WS could be so heartless and hurtful. You may buy countless books. You may try to diagnose your WS. It’s NPD! It’s bipolar disorder! It’s addiction! It’s FOO issues! He’s got KISA syndrome! It’s postpartum depression!
This need to get answers and make sense is understandable, but you’ll eventually realize you will never understand. It will never really make sense. You determine that your WS has a dysfunctional family. Will you hurt less? Will WS’s actions be less wrong?
Me: BW x 2 - 53
Ist XWH: Married over 17 years, DD and DS (mine)
2nd XH: Also 53, DS (his), 8 yrs together
OW: Pet sitter
D-Day: 9/11/16
Divorced in 60 seconds flat. http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=591733
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 2:54 AM on Thursday, December 1st, 2016
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:05 PM on Friday, December 30th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Beyondbelief2016 ( member #56570) posted at 5:17 PM on Friday, December 30th, 2016
Fantastic post - thanks for bumping for us newbies to read
BW: 34 & WH: 37
Together almost 11 & M 9
cOW: affaired down like no tomorrow - EA into PA (approx 15 months)
DDays and TT: early nov to late dec 16
Had-enough-day: 20 Dec - read riot act
NYE onwards: focusing on making me happy first
Lovingmyselfmore ( member #46119) posted at 3:25 AM on Sunday, January 8th, 2017
dday: september-12-2014
Me: 42 EX: 46 gay or bisexual (go figure!) together: 12 years
Dday to 3 months: suicidal 1 year after: huge depression- 1.5 years still kind of depressed-Took me 2.5 years to be kind of happy again
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:47 AM on Monday, February 6th, 2017
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
