thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 5:31 AM on Friday, January 18th, 2013
i edit frequently because i have to
Rella ( member #21136) posted at 5:44 PM on Saturday, January 19th, 2013
Eleven years later, I never could have imagined how much happier my life has turned out!
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 5:46 AM on Monday, January 21st, 2013
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 7:08 PM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2013
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 9:43 PM on Wednesday, February 13th, 2013
newbees!
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 3:24 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2013
Weekend Bumps for Newbies
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 1:28 AM on Sunday, March 10th, 2013
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
Rella ( member #21136) posted at 10:53 PM on Sunday, March 10th, 2013
Eleven years later, I never could have imagined how much happier my life has turned out!
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 8:57 AM on Friday, March 15th, 2013
i edit frequently because i have to
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 2:56 AM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
jackie89 ( member #38271) posted at 5:53 AM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
A great post. LOVE it, can still be applied!
Another reminder on how I wished I had found this site, when I was in denial/shock at the very beginning! My 1yr of hell TT, that I wasted!
I never looked up the word "infidelity" was always looking up "betrayed"
Thank You
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 2:27 PM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
Family and friends on boths sides of our M knew about the A and did not tell me.
So, I don't consider them friends of our M.
One, to this day, continues to let WH spend overnights at her house and he told me during false R, "I chose her cause she lets me do what I want". She is also someone who thinks so differently than me that I can't consider being "friends" right now, never mind later.
WH does not understand this, but its not a surprise.
A few boundaries that I put out that I don't see on the list atop this thread:
-NC with me from OW's house where he has lived for a year;
-NC to OW if he has to come to "our" house;
-no trading resources between OW's family and "our" house; yes, he realy thought this was ok.
-limited texting/electronics when WH visits with DD, shouldn't time be one-on-one with her?
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 3:06 PM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 2:06 PM on Thursday, May 16th, 2013
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:07 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 4:35 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 12:33 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Jennifer99 ( member #39551) posted at 3:17 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
I think the key here is "detach".
I do, then I get all happy when its working, we get close, he gets stupid again.
I'm thinking my next boundary just may be that there is a limit to the number of times I'll through this cycle with him.
When I say he gets stupid again I don't mean he cheats again its all the other stuff - mean with words, impatient, treating me like the enemy - what we were even BEFORE the EA.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 3:19 PM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2013
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 9:18 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
