nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 1:04 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
Great post.
Up thread someone asked for examples of consequences of boundaries. I could use some examples too.
Thanks.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 4:33 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
Neorb,
Consequences can range from deal breaker divorce. To additional IC, sleep on couch, separation, setting up MC, additional gives like chores, planning additional date nights, scheduling couples weekend, etc. not everything needs to none a deal breaker, but they should engage and give more. Hope that helps.
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 6:15 PM on Tuesday, February 25th, 2014
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:36 PM on Thursday, March 6th, 2014
undonelife ( member #38421) posted at 6:46 PM on Thursday, March 6th, 2014
Me: BS 59 Him: WH 57
M: 34 years
DDay 1 1986 EA Confessed,Rugswept
DDay 2 11/25/2012 EA/PA Caught
TT 9/9/13 Lies,Pictures
OW:20 yrs younger M-CwOW
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 11:19 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Simple ( member #18814) posted at 9:44 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 2:05 PM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 9:11 PM on Wednesday, March 19th, 2014
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
bluelightshine ( member #37539) posted at 5:59 AM on Friday, March 21st, 2014
BS(Me) 32
SAWH (Beaker) 35
Married 11 Years
Dday Oct 06 2012
Dday 2 February 19 2014
Confessed to getting blow jobs from
prostitutes in 2006 and while living with OW
PA/EA 1 year
In r
2 children under 10
Working on faith everyday.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:22 AM on Tuesday, March 25th, 2014
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:45 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Simple ( member #18814) posted at 11:03 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022
Simple ( member #18814) posted at 10:09 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 3:52 PM on Sunday, March 30th, 2014
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:32 PM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 6:29 AM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
i edit frequently because i have to
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:30 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Simple ( member #18814) posted at 12:27 AM on Saturday, April 12th, 2014
Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 8:26 PM on Sunday, April 13th, 2014
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
