Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 10:43 PM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2024
If your ws says she wants to kill herself, RUN, to your phone and call 911. This is too much of a burden on an already traumatized person. There are meds in those units to help her. It also gives you space because you need downtime without worrying about her actions.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 4:35 AM on Thursday, November 7th, 2024
Cooley2here is right. Call 911 if she threatens suicide. This is also very important to formally document her behavior.
WoodThrush2 ( member #85057) posted at 3:09 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2024
Friend...this is horrible. What you are feeling is normal. God can deliver you and help you through this ...seek Him hard.
If it were me, I truly would make every effort to try to get a DNA test of baby. Maybe there are tissue samples somewhere. I know this is horrible....so sorry. As others have said, this will take time...your world has been blown up.
Please read Betrayal Bind book...will help you greatly at least get some footing. Also, get a therapist who specializes in Betrayal Trauma. Jake Porter would definitely be able to help of refer you
TheRadHatter (original poster new member #85418) posted at 5:16 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2024
She is not currently threatening suicide. Apparently this was a low spot she was in several months before she told me.
I did not get the baby DNA tested, because I had no reason to think he wasn't mine. Even though I had a vasectomy years ago, I never returned to have my sample checked. I also had an injury very shortly after my vasectomy. The physicians told me to go get my V rechecked, as my injury healing process possibly "fixed" my vasectomy. Tbh, none of this was a huge priority, and so I checked nothing.
Fast forward to last year, she tells me she's pregnant, we thought it might still be a possibility anyways, so I didn't dwell on it too much.
I am getting scheduled for a sperm analysis next month. So hopefully that will give me some answers.
If I chose to D her, she would give me favorable terms. I am not worried about the outcome of that arrangement at all.
Kindern ( member #78441) posted at 5:44 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2024
What are you basing the idea she would give favourable terms on?
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TheRadHatter (original poster new member #85418) posted at 9:15 AM on Monday, November 11th, 2024
I'm basing it off of a couple conversations I've had since then with her, as well as some text messages I'm come across where she has no desire to foght me. If I choose, she rather just give me what I want.
