minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:38 AM on Thursday, May 26th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:00 PM on Friday, June 3rd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 2:33 AM on Wednesday, June 8th, 2016
PinkFeelingBlue ( new member #53091) posted at 4:15 AM on Wednesday, June 8th, 2016
I wish the ditching of friends who aren't friends of the marriage worked. WH's best friend has always hated me and is just now going through a divorce and living with a new girlfriend. He's in WH's ear all day, every day. There is no breaking those two up.Pretty sure he's been pushing WH on. If I understand the rules of this, it's up to WH to end the friendship. Not going to happen. 
BS: 39 WH: 43
M: 17 together 21
D-day of EA: May 3, 2016
Heading for D or LS
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 4:58 AM on Wednesday, June 8th, 2016
Pink,
Tell him he can choose between the toxic friend or the marriage. If he chooses incorrectly, you know where his priorities are. Declare your value, if he balks you know he isn't willing to do what it takes to make the marriage a priority.
BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 2:54 PM on Wednesday, June 15th, 2016
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:24 PM on Wednesday, June 22nd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 8:47 AM on Monday, July 4th, 2016
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 8:14 PM on Wednesday, July 6th, 2016
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 34 years/Together 35 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:04 PM on Wednesday, July 13th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 10:07 PM on Monday, July 18th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:29 PM on Thursday, August 4th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:10 PM on Thursday, August 18th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 1:23 AM on Monday, August 22nd, 2016
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:37 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 12:37 PM on Sunday, September 11th, 2016
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 2:39 AM on Thursday, September 22nd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:50 PM on Wednesday, October 5th, 2016
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 2:00 AM on Wednesday, October 26th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 2:53 AM on Thursday, December 1st, 2016
bumping. Boundaries are so important.
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
