SandAway ( member #37775) posted at 8:27 PM on Wednesday, April 8th, 2015
fWW
BH Tred
M 19yrs
DDay Nov. 2011
Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people
Macsecond ( member #43972) posted at 1:10 AM on Tuesday, April 21st, 2015
Me - WW (42)
Him - BH (40)
Married 18 years.
2 amazing daughters (DD10 and DD6)
DDay - July 4, 2014 (I confessed to 5 month OEA)
sorrowfulmate ( member #43441) posted at 4:44 PM on Thursday, April 30th, 2015
Me-WS 52 Her-BS 51 Questioningall
5 kids DDay 12/13 (lied ONS)
Dday 3/3/14 - multiple EA, PA
TT ended in October when I had polygraph
"Good night, Sorrowful. Good work. Sleep well. I can always divorce you in the morning." Dread BS Roberts
deephurt ( member #48243) posted at 7:51 PM on Wednesday, June 24th, 2015
This needs to stay at the top as often as possible for new BS and WS. This is so well written and really understands how BS's are feeling and what we need.
me-BW
him-WH
so far successfully in R
Hope2behealed ( new member #48436) posted at 3:32 PM on Monday, July 6th, 2015
Thank you for reposting this as I might have not come across it until much later. Although as I read it, tears flowed down my cheeks (sure, what's new?), it put all of what I have been feeling and going through into tangible words. It even brought to light some things I was not comprehending as I was experiencing them. It breaks my heart, gives me hope and makes me want more than anything for my WH to take these words to heart, really embrace them and begin to live by them. As we all know, this road of R can only be traveled by two. Otherwise, the fork will be reached.
I emailed this to my WH. I hope he read it. I hope it helps us.
Oh how I hope upon hope.
The cruelest lies are often told in silence.
— Robert Louis Stevenson
1985 ( member #28171) posted at 1:20 PM on Tuesday, August 18th, 2015
Me-BH now 70
Her-fWW now 69 Still beautiful to me
DDay: June 1985. 5 years after A ended
Still married - actually in love
2 grown kids; 5 grandkids
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 10:10 PM on Wednesday, September 30th, 2015
Bump for all the Newbies!
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Macsecond ( member #43972) posted at 10:27 PM on Wednesday, November 25th, 2015
Me - WW (42)
Him - BH (40)
Married 18 years.
2 amazing daughters (DD10 and DD6)
DDay - July 4, 2014 (I confessed to 5 month OEA)
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 10:06 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2015
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 3:34 AM on Sunday, January 10th, 2016
i edit frequently because i have to
survivor11 ( member #50713) posted at 10:49 PM on Sunday, January 10th, 2016
This is the best post, expresses exactly what I am going through as a BS. I am printing this for my WH to read and digest.
Tecuacuicani ( member #51032) posted at 7:27 PM on Tuesday, January 12th, 2016
FBgf, FOgf(EA)
"We carry on our backs the burden time always reveals
In the lonely light of morning
In the wound that would not heal
Is the bitter taste of losing everything I held so dear." Sarah McLachlan
ruralnurse ( new member #51308) posted at 2:32 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2016
My first post. I've lurked for awhile. 6 months since my D-day. He's done pretty much everything mentioned above and I still struggle everyday with staying with him. He knows this and he's frightened, as am I. Will I be one of those BS who can't get over it? I don't know what else he could possibly do to convince me this is where he wants to be. The question is, is it where I want to be? Told my therapist I would give it a year.
bs: me 59
ws: 59
M: 31 yrs. together 35
C: Son grown
DD: 7/9/2015
Trying R.
Most of out hurts come through relationships so will our healing. Grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.
In the real dark night of the sou
Ascendant ( member #38303) posted at 12:00 AM on Tuesday, February 9th, 2016
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 7:06 PM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2016
i edit frequently because i have to
c1own74 ( new member #52129) posted at 4:34 AM on Sunday, March 6th, 2016
Thank you so much for posting this. I'm new to this forum and am working alone right now to reconcile my marriage. Some of this is applicable to my situation.
Me: WW: 41
Him: BH:42
2 children: 12 & 7
Separated since 9/2015
One sided reconciliation effort :/
iamamoron ( new member #52052) posted at 9:08 PM on Monday, March 7th, 2016
I appreciate this so much. I am the WS and I am committed to everything on here. Thank you.
MessedUpAndDown ( member #24367) posted at 6:43 AM on Saturday, June 25th, 2016
Me: BH
Her: WW
Married: 16 years
DDay: 12-12-08 ~ S: 8-1-10
"If at first you don't succeed, try try again. Then give up. There's no sense in being a damn fool about it." - W.C. Fields
Semaj ( member #31886) posted at 8:09 PM on Thursday, July 14th, 2016
oldtimer97 ( member #2365) posted at 2:32 AM on Friday, August 5th, 2016
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”
― Maya Angelou
To save a marriage, you must be willing to lose the marriage.
