Topic is Sleeping.
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 12:51 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016
I have a ton of affair/relationship books to give away. I'm keeping my divorce/coparenting books 
I will post pics in comments, but here they are in no particular order:
Getting Past the Affair by Snyder et al
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Kirshenbaum
Chatting or Cheating by Meyers
Spousonomics by Szuchman and Anderson
Getting the Sex you Want by Nelson (actually, I might keep that one 
)
Talking Dirty by Neustifier (hmmm... I might reconsider keeping that one in case I ever, ahem, need it)
Mating in Captivity by Perel
What Makes Love Last by Gottman
Where to Draw the Line by Katherine
After the Affair by Spring
Not Just Friends by Glass
Marriage Rules by Lerner
The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by Gottman
The Sex-Starved Marriage by Davis
If I find anymore, I'll come back and edit. As you can see, I often try to solve problems with information.
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 1:48 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016
Pics:
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 1:49 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016
More Pics:
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 1:49 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016
Last pics:
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 1:50 AM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016
OK, it's not really a ton, but at least a few kilos.
I can mail them to people who want/need them.
Also, if you'd like more info, I can take a pic of the blurb on the back or tell you what I thought of the book.
[This message edited by Hawke at 7:54 PM, May 9th (Monday)]
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
latebloomer45 ( member #18021) posted at 4:08 PM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016
What did you think of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay?
Just curios.
Me: BS 56
Him: FWS 58
Married 32 years
Son-26 Daughter (Who Came out as trans, so now Son)-23,
D-Day #1 12/11/2007
D-Day #2 5/23/2008 fucking trickle truth!
Whatever Threnody said, I concur.
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 8:44 PM on Tuesday, May 10th, 2016
I would say that the author is pro-reconciliation. She basically says that if you are on the fence about leaving or staying, opt to stay for a while to see if the relationship can be salvaged.
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
latebloomer45 ( member #18021) posted at 2:23 AM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2016
OK. I think I'll get it from the library...I'm sure someone closer to DDAy would find it more helpful. Thanks.
Me: BS 56
Him: FWS 58
Married 32 years
Son-26 Daughter (Who Came out as trans, so now Son)-23,
D-Day #1 12/11/2007
D-Day #2 5/23/2008 fucking trickle truth!
Whatever Threnody said, I concur.
Lost16 ( new member #55092) posted at 5:54 PM on Thursday, September 15th, 2016
"Not Just Friends" and "Getting past the affair" are books I would like to read, i have read the information on them online just the other day before finding your post.. If you still have them i would be happy to take them, and give away once i am done with them as well to help others.
Me BS: 33
Him WH: 33
Married 15yrs
DDay: 08/28/16 & 08/19/17
Currently: Separating.. then Divorce
stayedforthekids ( member #45706) posted at 8:17 PM on Thursday, September 15th, 2016
You're good people Hawke! Way to pay it forward.
I hate to admit it, I've read most of those books myself.
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 9:14 PM on Thursday, September 15th, 2016
Let me check. I know I forwarded a few books on, but I may still have one of those.
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
Lost16 ( new member #55092) posted at 10:03 PM on Thursday, September 15th, 2016
Thank you Hawke for looking
Me BS: 33
Him WH: 33
Married 15yrs
DDay: 08/28/16 & 08/19/17
Currently: Separating.. then Divorce
Minnesota ( member #50615) posted at 10:26 PM on Friday, September 16th, 2016
Lost- If she doesn't, I have Not Just Friends and can send that on to you.
Me: BS Upper 40's
Her: XWW younger 30's
Married Sept. 2010
DDay Thanksgiving 2015
Dday2- Jan28ish, 2016 -new affair
One child (Big Mister) born in 2012
Divorced Sept. 2, 2016
Minnesota ( member #50615) posted at 10:40 PM on Friday, September 16th, 2016
In fact, I have the following I would be happy to send:
How to Help your Spouse Heal from Your Affair (yes, I actually bought the book) (MacDonald)
I Love You But I don't Trust You (Kirshenbaum)
Not "Just Friends" (Glass)
Intimacy after Infidelity (Solomon and Teagno)
After the Affair (Spring)
First Aid for the Betrayed (Alan)
Getting Past the Affair (Snyder et. al.)
In grabbing these off these off the table, I glanced through the chapters again and think I want to read a few chapters in a couple of these again, especially now that I know what direction my life is going post D. So if you want one or more of these, it might take a day or two longer than you would expect before I send them because I might reread a copule chapters. - but ask.
Me: BS Upper 40's
Her: XWW younger 30's
Married Sept. 2010
DDay Thanksgiving 2015
Dday2- Jan28ish, 2016 -new affair
One child (Big Mister) born in 2012
Divorced Sept. 2, 2016
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 11:40 PM on Friday, September 16th, 2016
I see we have similar taste in books, Minnesota. I expect a lot of us have a similar bookshelf (actually, mine now live in the "drawer of despair" in the bedside table on ex's old side of the bed.
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
Lost16 ( new member #55092) posted at 11:55 PM on Friday, September 16th, 2016
Minnesota you are so sweet.
Yes i can take those off your hand and also "How to Help your Spouse Heal from Your Affair (yes, I actually bought the book) (MacDonald)"
Just friends
Getting past the affair
How can I message you my info?
Me BS: 33
Him WH: 33
Married 15yrs
DDay: 08/28/16 & 08/19/17
Currently: Separating.. then Divorce
Minnesota ( member #50615) posted at 6:44 AM on Saturday, September 17th, 2016
Lost- I sent you a Private Message. You can respond to it with an address I can ship those books to.
Hawke- I'm sure most of us do have the classics. I like that, "drawer of despair." I had my books at my office at work. I'll be happy to get that table back that they were sitting on. It will be the table of total awesomeness soon. :-)
Me: BS Upper 40's
Her: XWW younger 30's
Married Sept. 2010
DDay Thanksgiving 2015
Dday2- Jan28ish, 2016 -new affair
One child (Big Mister) born in 2012
Divorced Sept. 2, 2016
MultiplePain ( member #54608) posted at 4:34 PM on Monday, January 9th, 2017
Hawke, do you still have the copy of
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay
or After the Affair?
I have many of the others, but it gets expensive quickly. 
BS:46
STBXSAWH:41 (lostinthewoods12)
3 kids,2 angel babies
3 PAs, Too many OEAP (with Sexting) to count... from 2011-17
long version in my profile
Jerkwad ( member #56604) posted at 2:54 AM on Sunday, January 22nd, 2017
Do you still have any of the last 6 on your written list? I would like all of any of them that are available please. I can't send messages yet so can you please send me a message if they are available. Thank you.
If not, Minnesota, do you have those ones?
[This message edited by Jerkwad at 8:55 PM, January 21st (Saturday)]
Me: WH
Her: BS
D-day: 11/21/2016
Together 7 years engaged 2
Hawke (original poster member #47517) posted at 12:46 AM on Monday, January 23rd, 2017
I will check, but I might not get to it until Wednesday, if that's ok.
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
Topic is Sleeping.
