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Xh and ow have been married 7 years. They have a nice house 10 miles away, it is in Xh name only. I found out today they bought a new house-in both names- 1.5 miles from me. I have rarely seen them in 7 years. Now I will see them everywhere. Sigh. I’ve heard she’s cheating on him, and that guy lives 1 mile away the other way. It doesn’t look like house #1 is for sale, but the kids say they are both moving over to house #2.”

Not sure what to do/say if I see them. The only thing I’ve thought of is that he signed over our house to me in the D,and I never have to refi. If I see them anywhere and they start trouble,I’ve thought about saying, “hey, I never had a chance to tell you, thanks for the house!” and start laughing as a walk away. They took me back to court to try to take the house back and the judge said, “no”. That was probably the maddest I’ve ever seen OW! !!

Oh Lord people, help me thru this invasion of my safe zone.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 12:19 AM, September 12th (Saturday)]

I’ve been divorced from XWW for about 2 years now and we both live in the same relatively small town that is in a suburb of NYC. I kept the family home and she rents a house no more than a mile away. It has come as quite a surprise to me that over these past 2 years that I’ve only run into her once, other than at one of our three kids’ events, at the town recycling center dropping off cardboard. That’s it! So, while I understand your feelings, it may not turn out as bad as you’re fearing.

Just always be your fabulous self and don’t feel obligated to speak to them.

Or if you do ask the OW how her new boyfriend is.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 9:42 AM, September 12th (Saturday)]

It would be wonderful if I never run into them, but if she starts mouthing off, I may just ask about her boyfriend!

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:41 AM, September 13th (Sunday)]

Now I find out that OW daughter and daughters H are also moving into the same neighborhood as OW and XH.1.5 miles away in a very small town. $230,000 houses!! But they can’t help my kids with any college expenses-even gas or tires for the old cars they drive..

Gees my little safe area is being invaded. FWIW OW daughter moved away from xh and ow bc of the drunken fighting. Hope they don’t try to drag my kids into the drama.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:34 PM, September 16th (Wednesday)]

Maybe you'll be as fortunate as me. Xhole and new victim, I mean wifey, live less than 5 minutes from me. Even though it is a small town area, we haven't crossed paths in years. I'm pretty sure he goes out of his way to avoid me and shops where he knows I don't generally go. So far so good!

Hey, you know I am just a hop, skip and a jump away. And ow in our sitch lives in your town, IIRC. Maybe a Strangers on a Train scenario???

Nah. But man, do I understand that. Thoughts and prayers for your sanity.

Maybe a Strangers on a Train scenario???

OMG!!!!!!

Thank you!!!!

My xwh’s first wife hated me.,,, Parenting differences ... and there were only two houses between us on the same BLOCK!! Unless we made an effort, there was really no contact

Do you know the name of OW’s AP? If you run into XH and OW maybe say “are you two here to meet up with (APs name)? I just ran into him a few minutes ago....

Awesome!!!!!!!

Don’t worry, a mile is still a good buffer. My ex literally almost shared a backyard with me (only a few houses down). She has since moved but still literally a 2 minute walk, I would say maybe 250 meters away. It’s comical at this point but as long as your not neighbors the exact distance won’t matter as much.

I hope I rarely see them. Luckily their vehicles are common, so I really can’t tell right away if they are nearby.

2 things— kids say -they are moving to this small (but expensive)house near by, with no steps, bc XH has a hip prob, having surgery, etc. great. Glad he’s her problem.

BUT- they are emptying their old house and building- and giving my kids all sort of stuff- tools, pressure washer, fishing poles, row boat, idk what all the kids have put in my shop, it’s all in good condition. So, on one hand I’m ok with the kids getting all this from their Dad. But I feel like a FREAKING storage facility! He didn’t give them this stuff until now when he has no place for it. I guess what set me off is they gave the kids their luggage! What in the everloving hell is wrong with these people??? Their f*****g luggage? Is this so they can ask for it when they travel next? 🤨Believe me, OW now wifetress would love for me to dump everything in their front yard and make a scene and give her attention.

I have to remember it’s not a happy home wherever they are. Her son moved out to be with his dad, the daughter moved out right after HS bc of the fighting. My kids rarely see their Dad bc of the drama.

UGH.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 10:25 PM, October 4th (Sunday)]