Topic is Sleeping.
messyleslie (original poster member #58177) posted at 3:11 AM on Tuesday, February 15th, 2022
I have been chatting with a guy I met online and we have gone out a handful of times. I really like him and he seems like a very high quality person with a good character. This is the first person I have dated since my divorce and it’s been fun.
We were supposed to go out last Friday, but I tested positive for Covid on Tuesday evening. (I’m a teacher so it was bound to happen…) he was really nice about and kind when I was sort of emotional about my test being positive.
On Thursday I got a care package in the mail from him with some chocolates and cough drops and honey and tea and a very sweet card.
I told a friend about it and her response was something like "that’s really nice of him but honestly you are awesome and you deserve and should expect to be treated like that."
I thought a lot about that and ended up realizing that in all my relationships I have never wanted to be a burden or a bother or cause work for anyone else. So I have never had expectations for stuff like this. The thought of deserving to be treated like this seems entitled and selfish almost in my head but in reality I think I have been settling for so much less than what I really want because I haven’t wanted to ask for it or haven’t thought i deserved it.
It was just an interesting thought and realization. As I go forth in my dating experience I definitely want to be someone who has extremely high expectations for those I invite into my life. I have been with someone who doesn’t value me and I never want to do that again.
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 4:10 AM on Tuesday, February 15th, 2022
Hope you get well soon!!
You absolutely are worthy of good things and kind gestures!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
MelisssaZZZ ( member #25953) posted at 10:20 AM on Tuesday, February 15th, 2022
This is awesome - so nice to hear and we’ll done on him!
Hope you get better soon and things progress well with this one :).
Me BS - 40
WH 42
1 child - 9y
married 5 yrs, together 7
DD1 midmarch 09
DD2 early june 09
some more DD's of course - cannot bother to list
Status: Divorced Oct 2011
Him: not with OW anymore. She grew up and ditched him..
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:30 PM on Tuesday, February 15th, 2022
Get well and yes, you do deserve it.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 1:45 AM on Friday, February 18th, 2022
I am like you. I expect nothing - and that is what I have experienced. This guy sounds like a good one. And you do deserve it!
Topic is Sleeping.
