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Helena67 (original poster member #80506) posted at 5:35 PM on Wednesday, October 18th, 2023
My husband has signed the divorce papers. I don't feel anything.....
BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:17 PM on Wednesday, October 18th, 2023
(((Helena67))) yeah I'm not sure I will feel anything either. I am waiting for final signoff then onto the judge. I think I will be relieved when this is all over.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
Helena67 (original poster member #80506) posted at 6:24 PM on Thursday, October 19th, 2023
Thank you, CBS. I hope that I can feel the relief at some point. That I can leave it all behind me. That there will come a time that I don't think about affaires, all, the, time.... That I won't trie to understand the why's. It is all so tiring. Well maybe that is what I feel. I'm tired. It is as if I have run a marathon with no finish line...
BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:01 PM on Thursday, October 19th, 2023
hey Helena,
There is some shock involved. This is a definitive milestone, and it may take some time for your body to process. Don't be surprised if you catch the feels at some unexpected moment like in the grocery store or something. And you may experience a crazy mix of relief, sadness, fear, and excitement. Any and all feelings will be valid.
Meanwhile, congratulate yourself for being your own best friend and doing what you needed to do to be your best self.
This took courage and strength and bad-assery and you did it!
And yes you are tired. But one morning you will wake up and feel a little different. A little lighter. And then you will realize you really are coming out of the dark.
Hang in there — you are close!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Helena67 (original poster member #80506) posted at 8:24 AM on Friday, October 20th, 2023
BB, those last three words sounds so good...... thank you!
BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!
ANewPerson ( member #83728) posted at 4:40 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2023
Congratulations! I hope you do get some feelings, like relief, joy, peace, contentment, excitement, optimism, and all the other emotions blanketed by living in lies.
Helena67 (original poster member #80506) posted at 7:00 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2023
BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!
mommabear1010 ( member #79915) posted at 10:37 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2023
It’s such a mix of emotions…from apathy to sad to relief to happy…my state is going divorce hearings over Zoom so it was a little funny to log into a Zoom, get the divorce order, and log off 
Dday- 1/19/22
Trickle truth
Dday2- 2/8/22
Dday3- 3/10/22
Divorced!
Helena67 (original poster member #80506) posted at 7:34 AM on Saturday, October 21st, 2023
I never heard that before . I'm glad that I didn't have to face him during the divorce process. I'm in no contact since september 2022.
BS (me) 56 years. Divorced!!!
Topic is Sleeping.
