Topic is Sleeping.
zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 9:34 PM on Sunday, May 7th, 2023
Thanks for checking in. You've been missed. I'm so sorry you have more to deal with and are battling depression. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
Praying for you. (((Dragn)))
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
dontsaylovely ( member #43688) posted at 11:13 PM on Sunday, May 7th, 2023
Take care of yourself.
[This message edited by dontsaylovely at 1:28 AM, Monday, May 8th]
YankeeGal ( new member #78558) posted at 5:27 AM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
You say your children are doing well. How can that be?
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 10:11 AM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
You’re very strong and smart, Dragon, you’ll get there, this is a breakthrough not a breakdown, your body preparing for the next stage. One step at a time. Let us know what and if you need anything from us. Big big hugs x
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 12:12 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
Hi Drgn,
Thanks for checking in. I'm glad you're in IC. I'm sorry to hear your WH is abusing you. Anything we can do to help? We're all here rooting for you!
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 1:00 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
Dragn, we are here for you. Please make sure you have safe people to check in with and that you can tell what is going on to so they can make sure you are OK.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:12 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
((((DRGN))))
Was out of contact all weekend, and just saw this. I am so glad you are pulling yourself up again.
I hope your animals are providing you strength, and relief from the stress.
Do what you need to do to keep yourself safe.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 1:28 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
"You say your children are doing well. How can that be?"
The last thing someone needs when going through a crises and battling depression is guilt.
Let's try to remember to be kind and continue to lift Dragn up with support.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
annb ( member #22386) posted at 1:34 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
Hi, Dragn, another member who is relieved to see you check in.
The nice weather is finally here, I hope the sunshine and fresh air help you get out of your depression.
Sending a huge virtual hug.....
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 2:16 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
Hi Dragn,
Another virtual hug ((((Dragn)))). We’re here for you.
Me-58 FWH-60 Married 40 years 9/2/2023 grown daughters-40&36.14yo GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); 12yo GD & 7yo GD(DD36). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
emergent8 ( Guide #58189) posted at 4:47 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
Thanks for checking in Dragn. I know there have been plenty of us who have been worried about you.
I’m sorry your husband continues to hurt you. You deserve so much better. Strength to you and the little dragons. Please take care of yourself. 💜
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 5:01 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
Oh Dragn, depression is such a beast. Getting out of bed is the hardest part. I’m glad to hear you’ve done that! Continue with IC. And if you ever see an opportunity to leave WH, don’t be afraid to grab it. Timing is everything, so keep your antenna up. Don’t be afraid to ask for help IRL. I know you’ve been in a tough position with your living situation. Safety first, of course. Sending hugs.
((Dragn))
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 8:24 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
I'm not here much but you're one I always look for. I'm so glad you checked in! Thinking of you and the little dragons and hope you're able to break free soon. <3
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
number4 ( member #62204) posted at 8:30 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
I can't say it's better. I am in IC. I am finally staying out of bed. I even shower.
As someone who's been there, 'staying out of bed' and showering can be a HUGE step. It probably feels awful, but you wouldn't be doing it if you weren't able to. It took you a long time to get to this point, and getting out of it won't happen overnight. But you've got positive things going for you, including seeing an IC. It's nice to know that someone is there to help you see the forest through the trees and make sure you are taking care of yourself.
Me: BWHim: WHMarried - 30+ yearsTwo adult daughters1st affair: 2005-20072nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addictionStatus: R
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 10:50 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2023
Oh Dragon my heart hurts for you but glad you are fighting this depression and have the help of an IC. You will get there! Just keep going and hope he is out of the house at least.
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 6:26 PM on Wednesday, May 10th, 2023
"You say your children are doing well. How can that be?"
The last thing someone needs when going through a crises and battling depression is guilt.
Let's try to remember to be kind and continue to lift Dragn up with support.
Thanks Zebra!
The kids ARE good. Always bumps in the road of parenting and 2 weeks of everyone rotating sick didn't help. Especially now that I have it. Thankfully they all seem to be over it, whatever the hell it was. The symptoms were so all over the place. The twins ended up with fevers that were scary. The older two mainly had head cold symptoms with no fever.
I know and am reminded alot that kids feel the tension on the house so I don't need the reminder here. One reason I stayed away actually. A divorce will happen but unless you are willing to fork over the money to make it happen now, nagging me about it won't help.
I'm still struggling to get out of bed every day. The animals give no comfort. Hell we lost all of the goats and 3 horses thanks to fucking predators and that's with locking them up close to the house with barbed wire, motion lights, hot wire. Ugh. My brother loves wolves but I told him of I saw one again I was shooting it!
Anyways support is greatly appreciated. 😊
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 7:14 PM on Wednesday, May 10th, 2023
You're welcome. 
You do not need to explain yourself.
Ugh, I'm so sorry about your animals.
One day at a time or one hour at a time.
We're here for you.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 8:45 PM on Wednesday, May 10th, 2023
So sorry about the loss of the animals.
I no longer have chickens due to coyotes, and am waiting a year or more to replace them, hoping they find a new food source and leave mine alone.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 11:34 PM on Wednesday, May 10th, 2023
Glad to hear from you Dragn, sorry things are not going well but you in my thoughts. You are a Dragn Mom and kids are resilient, they adapt step up when they need to. Hoping you get away from your abuser.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 32 years
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 3:30 PM on Thursday, May 11th, 2023
I'm so sorry about the goats and horses Drgn. Those goats were such a source of comedy around your place.
Do you still have sugar gliders?
Spring colds stink. I'm glad you guys are on the other side of it.
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
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