Topic is Sleeping.
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 7:07 PM on Monday, July 8th, 2013
SI Staff ( Moderator #10) posted at 11:52 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
HUFI-PUFI ( member #25460) posted at 9:58 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
As strange as it sounds, bumping this thread for shithead ... 
Don’t listen to your head, it’s easily confused. Don’t listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.
Maia ( member #8268) posted at 9:37 PM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18
floridaredman ( member #15122) posted at 3:34 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2013
" floridaredman, it's good to have you here"...DeeplyScared
Sleep Peacefully
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 3:36 PM on Monday, January 13th, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
DanteJace ( new member #42017) posted at 3:49 PM on Monday, January 13th, 2014
HUFI-PUFI ( member #25460) posted at 2:37 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
Bump for the newbies ...
Even if you are seeing IC or MC, or perhaps more importantly, if you don't have that option, reading these books can give you tools to determine the why of the affair and also show you a path to self-healing. For all of us as human beings, self-understanding comes from self-examination and in that journey, these books can be invaluable.
Good Reading! 
Don’t listen to your head, it’s easily confused. Don’t listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.
Wayflost ( member #41583) posted at 9:24 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
I just finished reading:
Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise by Jane Middelton=Moz
It's realistically a short read, unless you connect with it emotionally. It was painful because I see myself in the pages. But it was totally worth reading.
"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly."
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 8:22 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Bump.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
brokeback ( member #41726) posted at 8:26 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
ME 43
BS 38
1 Child 3 years old
Married 18 years
DDay - 10/2013. EA 9 months. PA 4 months. Ended the affair 11/2014
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 7:32 PM on Friday, May 30th, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 9:27 PM on Thursday, July 24th, 2014
HUFI-PUFI ( member #25460) posted at 1:39 PM on Thursday, August 28th, 2014
Bumped because not all of these books are mentioned in the Healing Library ... all of these books are helpful to the WS community ... obviously, some might not apply to your situation but then again, without opening up and reviewing the material, you might never know.
Don’t listen to your head, it’s easily confused. Don’t listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 11:39 PM on Tuesday, September 9th, 2014
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
lovemywife4ever ( member #42834) posted at 12:38 AM on Wednesday, September 10th, 2014
Thank you! I have read How to help your spouse heal and codependent no more as well as online web reading. I am reading After the Affair but looking for more.
Me-WS
Her-BS (deena04)
Upper 30s and kids at home (hers/mine/ours)
Cheater-me 2.5 years into relationship, 2 months before engagement, 1.5 year before M...this is not an excuse but a timeline of our life
Now: real love and maturing
REMARRIED AN
corner ( new member #43433) posted at 9:41 PM on Thursday, September 11th, 2014
Thank you so much! This is amazing.
corner ( new member #43433) posted at 12:05 AM on Friday, September 12th, 2014
beyondbelief13 ( member #41080) posted at 12:57 AM on Tuesday, October 14th, 2014
WS Only
[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:01 PM, October 13th (Monday)]
BS: 60 WS: 55
DS: 19 DD: 11
M:25 years
Polygraph 4/27/13 revealed A #1 (ons)only 7 weeks after wedding and A #2 7 month love of his life A
*TT for 18 MONTHS... Damned It!!!
Reconciling? Divorcing? I guess only time will tell?
Neznayou ( member #40654) posted at 2:25 PM on Wednesday, October 15th, 2014
NOT Just Friends... I haven't finished it yet, but so far it seems like a day late and a dollar short. It should be required reading for newlyweds. I have trouble reading it because it points out (so far) all the things that I should have done, didn't do, and made our recovery/ reconciliation that much more painful.
I have found Brene Brown's work on Shame and Vulnerability to be very insightful, even though it is not specifically directed towards infidelity. Check her out on TedTalks. I'm reading Daring Greatly right now. It's a good thing it's a library book I think I would have underlined every other paragraph by now!
I've also picked up Talking to Depression by Claudia Strauss. Both my BH and I are/ have suffered from Depression. It is designed for those living with someone who has Depression and offers practical, everyday tips. One of the first reviews I read on Amazon.com was written by someone who both has Depression and recognized the benefit of the advice her family took from the book.
If you are a light reader or need something for the "throne room", I like Marc and Angel Hack Life. They have a blog, they're on Facebook, and they've published several books which are all written in list/ blog/ article style. I can't say that I agree with all their tidbits of advice, but they have some pretty good lists.
And, for my future reading list, a counselor suggested reading works about personal evolution and recommended The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck. I haven't even looked at a preview of it, so I can't really say anything more about it.
Does anyone have any recommendations for overcoming one's own Passive-Aggressive behaviours or any books about a Passive-Aggressive woman? Most of what I've looked at so far are focused on the men because, apparently, women aren't passive-aggressive. Not that those couldn't be valuable resources anyway, but I'm throwing the question out there. Thanks.
Him: BH 1969
Me: WW 1973
Wedding: April 9, 1994
Son: 1998 (college freshman)
Son: 2002 (high school freshman)
Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012
I do not have it all together.
Topic is Sleeping.
