sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:01 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:20 PM on Wednesday, October 24th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:41 AM on Saturday, November 3rd, 2018
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 8:11 PM on Tuesday, November 6th, 2018
Where was this post when I needed it? There should be a thread called BS starter pack, with this at the top.
If only there were tags or search bars I might have been able to find this sooner and spare myself eight more months of pain and suffering before I wised up and got very specific about negotiating the new rules of engagement.
Thanks for this thread.
BW: 64 WH: 64 Both 57 on Dday, M 37 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays from 2017 - 2022, with five years of trickle truth and lies. I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, or trying to.
Carissima ( member #66330) posted at 8:24 AM on Saturday, November 24th, 2018
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 9:12 PM on Friday, December 21st, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:35 PM on Saturday, January 5th, 2019
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:28 AM on Sunday, February 3rd, 2019
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:35 PM on Saturday, February 16th, 2019
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:36 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2019
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 2:26 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2019
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:52 AM on Sunday, May 19th, 2019
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:40 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2019
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 11:20 AM on Thursday, June 27th, 2019
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:59 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2019
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 5:21 PM on Monday, August 19th, 2019
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Thrownaway29 ( member #71233) posted at 4:01 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2019
Thank you very much for this information!!
Married 1995DDY 1 EA lasted a few years I knew the whole time a swept it under the rug.DD2 July 11, 2019Trying to R but tired of the lies.DD3 8/31/20 Didn't get over the anger/ hurt fast enough for him so he decided to go back to her. Divorce finalized J
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:43 PM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2019
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:18 AM on Friday, September 27th, 2019
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:31 PM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2019
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
