Topic is Sleeping.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:35 PM on Sunday, November 19th, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 2:02 AM on Monday, December 11th, 2017
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:07 AM on Thursday, December 21st, 2017
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:25 PM on Tuesday, December 26th, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 10:31 PM on Monday, January 1st, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:15 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 2:27 AM on Thursday, February 8th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:08 PM on Friday, February 16th, 2018
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Adriw7878 ( new member #59582) posted at 10:44 PM on Sunday, February 18th, 2018
Thank you for this wonderful post.
Initially, (3 months ago) it was really hurtful and difficult to sleep in same bed with cheating wife. I moved out and slept on couch ... caused me slipped disc. Wife happily encouraged me to go for operation but I am opting for physio. Wife still doesn't know I have PI report of her shenanigans.
Now, spending my time to plan following:-
1. recovery of $500K wife took from our joint account where she banked in my insurance money and then transferred into her account
2. telling children of their way ward mom.
3. where I will be settling down after divorce.
Me/hubby - 56 yo (medically retired)
Wife - 56 yo (VP of high corp.)
Married - 28 yrs
2 adult children - loves me more
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 2:23 PM on Tuesday, February 20th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:08 AM on Tuesday, February 27th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:47 PM on Saturday, March 3rd, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:39 PM on Wednesday, March 21st, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 9:12 PM on Monday, April 2nd, 2018
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
heartbroken_kk (original poster member #22722) posted at 11:42 PM on Wednesday, April 18th, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
Atacompleteloss ( new member #60688) posted at 3:08 AM on Wednesday, April 25th, 2018
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:30 PM on Sunday, May 13th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:43 PM on Saturday, May 26th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
longingforhope ( new member #63989) posted at 4:30 PM on Friday, June 1st, 2018
I’m so grateful to have found this post. Thank you for these specifics to help when the imagination takes over. I have been struggling horribly with this.
Me: BW (40s)
WH (40s, remorseful, doing the work)
Oral with SW mid last year (2017)
Escorts 4 times (2018)
Porn addict since before marriage (discovered after)
strip clubs apparently through entire marriage
Married 20 plus years
Four childre
PJswife ( member #63619) posted at 12:45 AM on Monday, June 4th, 2018
Sometimes things are place in your path for a reason. I feel like the pendulum has swung. Have had a great two weeks and BAM the last two days I cannot get WH/OW thoughts out of my mind and the anger has crept into my little bit of peace. This reminds me I do not have to let my thoughts control me.
Me: BW 58
Him: WH 47
Married 7 years, together 11
D-Day #1: 3/14/18
D-Day #2 3/30/18, kept lying
Status: Reconciling
Character is much easier kept than recovered. ~Thomas Paine
Topic is Sleeping.
