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Figured probably a lot of you were doing this so I would start a thread....

I used to be married to a man that I thought was my soulmate, my best friend, the person who could give me comfort. He wasn’t. He liked to fuck whores during his lunch break, I divorced him in 2015.

On one hand, during this weirdness, I think about when I used to feel safe and protected and loved and wished he hadn’t done what he did so I could feel that way again.

On the other hand, who needs to be quarantined with a Whore Fucker? Iwwwwww There’s enough concern about viruses right now that I’m glad I’m not worried about STDs as well.

So, just a shout out to those of you who are going through this on your own. We’re better off. This too shall pass. We know how to be strong.

Ps - My guess is that prostitutes are probably price gouging right now. Good luck, asshole.

[This message edited by GiveTimeTime at 10:26 PM, March 23rd (Monday)]

Oh yah, I'm beyond grateful to not have to deal with that loser in my face 24/7.

Actually expecting him to break NC one of these days to 'check in' out of concern for how I'm doing. Or to ask for a loan. Truckload of crickets ready!

Stay safe everyone, we will get through this!

xo

I feel like 2019 prepared me for this. I spend a year cozying up to the prospect of living a fulfilling life in solitude and what do ya know, the rest of society is forced into the same circumstances. I definitely miss my daily social group from work, but I feel like the isolation isn't bothering me nearly as much as it would the average person, or someone in a not-so-great relationship. The only thing that worries me is the impact on the economy and what that looks like 3, 6, 12 months from now.

Doucheweasle is now his new wifey's quarantine nightmare. If he gets the slightest sniffle he acts like he is dying. SO glad I don't have to deal with that any longer!

Me? I get to bask in my sanctuary of peace and quiet.

Ps - My guess is that prostitutes are probably price gouging right now. Good luck, asshole.

This made me laugh so hard!

And I agree, I am super glad I'm not worried about getting coronavirus because XH couldn't keep his dick in his pants!

I have referred to the X for years as S4B= shit for brains. Well he is holed up (see what I did there) with O'Whora. She is a flight attendant. He is a medically grounded pilot who always considered flying as his #1 priority. He has Glioblastoma Grade 4 (brain cancer) and will not likely see Christmas this year. I worry for him, I pray for him. I never thought I would ever get to this point but I am so glad he left me for her.

I have strong memories of being around him when he had a cold. I can't imagine what living with him right now is like. Dante's Seventh Circle of Hell comes to mind. I firmly believe I was spared. And content to live alone.

I think for me after going through infidelity and divorce, it helped train me for this. The trauma from infidelity made me feel so alone. Now, I'm totally fine and comfortable. I'm getting so much done and I don't have to hear the ex piss and moan about her and herself. It's great! While this virus is a real threat, I tell myself I can only control what I can control, myself. Just as with infidelity and divorce, I'm gonna keep my side of the street clean. Stay safe everyone!

Lets look on the bright side. We don't have share our toilet paper stash!

I'm riding this out alone, too. But, I'm fine with it. I actually like being alone despite having a generally extroverted personality. Working from home has it's challenges but I'm doing ok with that, too. I do miss my coworkers. We upped our staff meetings to weekly (instead of every 2 weeks) just so we can see each other in video.

I can't imagine the hell it would be if I was still with my ex! He'd be convinced he had it. He would manifest the symptoms of everything he heard about. "No dear, you do not have ovarian cancer!" He also had a hefty streak of narcissism. So, not being able to get his fix from others is, I'm sure, making him nutso.

There are so many projects to do around my house that being bored won't be possible until I put the garden to bed in late Autumn.

Hang in there, everyone! We'll get through this.

I have one pet peeve I need to get off my chest and that is the phrase "social distancing". I'd like everyone to use the phrase "physical distancing". We can all be social on the phone, by text, on social media, Skype and Facetime, etc.

On my own also. Don't mind it at all. I went back to school and have a lot of school work so I am keeping busy.

I am so glad I am not isolating with ex. First he thinks he's too special to follow regulations so he would still be going to the closed business he got fired from due to the affair.

I am however absolutely bullshit angry that he hasnt contacted his three adult children. They havent had a relationship since the divorce, but damn, call your kids. Make sure they are well, did they lose their job? can they pay rent? buy food?

What a piece of shit father he has become.

Just a bit of a devils advocate. Have the kids tried to call him to see how he is doing, if he's lost his job, etc. and if not what does that make them?

He is employed, still working and doing very well.

Yes, I understand your point and I have had similar thoughts, but he's the parent, he's their dad. Does that make a difference? I'm not sure.

Does it make a difference? Of course it does. Though as hard as it is we have to remember our ex is still human and likely has feelings. Their feelings may be completely skewed, but they can still be hurt by others actions and of course if yours is anything like mine a complete emotional child.

I'm particularly sensitive to this since my ex filled our kids minds with all kinds of lies and distortions. Me even saying there are two sides to things was considered putting them in the middle, but for some reason my ex saying whatever crap she wanted about me was accepted as truth. Thankfully this is starting to change as they get older.

And like everyone else I am so happy I am no longer with my ex during these bizarre times.

I am so glad to be alone. I can eat whatever I want, cook what I enjoy, make a mess, clean my mess, snore, sleep without being disturbed, watch whatever I want, and nobody around to work my last nerve.

I've been social distancing for the last 2 years. Bwahaha. I'm a full time student again at 50 in a science major. All I do is eat, sleep, study, go to class, and do homework. I've barely had time to do things like clean and grocery shop. Now that my classes are online, I have a little bit more time to do that other stuff now.

I'm enjoying not being bothered. I van get more studying in and more homework done. I have a sign on my door that says, "do not knock. Dog goes nuts and I'm attending my online virtual class right now. I should be done in 3 hours. Thank you for your consideration."

I put that sign on my door at 8:00 am and leave it on their til 10:00 pm.

I am so glad to be alone. I can eat whatever I want, cook what I enjoy, make a mess, clean my mess, snore, sleep without being disturbed, watch whatever I want, and nobody around to work my last nerve.

Ditto!

It’s just me and my dog holed up in my new house. I’m so glad I’m not stuck being lonely with my ex sitting right next to me like it used to be like.

I love it! The house stays clean, I get to play a lot more with my kids! And I get to work from home! My STBExWW was telling me how I can't use clorox whipes since it needs to take 4 minutes to dry and I need to be using actual bleach and stuff cleaning my house. That's fine and all I guess, but I'm still wondering if she's ever going to even clean her house. it's always a mess. I was always the one cleaning up after her and the kids even though she was a SAHM. Yeah, workload has gone down a ton since separation. I'm really enjoying my clean place and extra time! It's pretty great!

I tried posting a pic that just popped up in FB feed.

So you're staying inside, practicing social distancing and cleaning yourself?

Congratulations my friend, you've become a house cat.

Sounds about right.

[This message edited by squid at 6:09 AM, March 28th, 2020 (Saturday)]

Totally enjoyed this post. Thank you -- and yes, you are better off,.

It took awhile but the 'checking in' text arrived today finally.

Of course it started with the letter "I"...

Some things never change.

Faithfool- mine “check-in” came yesterday (since property taxes are due this week on our joint property). He was def fishing about how I was doing. Nope...none of his business.

I miss my friends and socializing, but his hair pin temper in my little house would have been horrible. Don’t miss that at all.