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learningtofeel ( member #39543) posted at 12:35 AM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
OMG Y'all! Cards in the mail today! I am SOSOSOSOSOSOSO happy! And I have a confession: I messed up. This is my first time participating and somehow I missed how to send cards. I signed up and then thought I'd get instructions, and when I didn't, I figured I must have not signed up right. And I was so surprised, overjoyed, and incredibly guilty when I got masses of mail today. Thank you ALL! Next year, I will do better!
Happy holidays!
M 1989
3 young adult kids
D-Day 4.13.13
WS (him): 7 OW over 15 years
BS (me): had no clue
D-Day 2: 10.19.19, OW#8, a co-worker
Told him I was DONE
3kids30years ( member #38879) posted at 2:19 AM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
HOORAY!!!! Cards in California - not a lot of them, but that means........................................... MORE TOMORROW!!!!
And who on earth sent a padded envelope??? 
BW - 52 on Dday
WH - 53 on Dday
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm 2+ year EA/PA
TT until 2016 - why do they do that?
Trust is earned, respect is given, & loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one is to loose all three.
Outoflove2020 ( member #72682) posted at 2:26 AM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Ooohhh!!!! Cards today!!! So exciting. When do we open them??
Also loving the “Not Kid Friendly” comment on front of one envelope 🤣🤣
Ditto @learningtofeel. So happy to get them but feel so guilty for forgetting myself as well
[This message edited by Outoflove2020 at 8:28 PM, December 19th, 2020 (Saturday)]
DDay 1/15/2020.
Separated 3/1/2020
Still healing but in a better place
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 2:29 AM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Cards in Virginia today! And I'm making a list and checking it twice for some of you. Just saying. Once I get all the cards I'll post my SI tree, which is looking beautiful this year. It's joined by the recently dubbed Tinsel the rescue Poinsettia.
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 3:29 AM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
I got one!! And my garage looks like tinkerbell sploded 
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
WalkinOnEggshelz ( Administrator #29447) posted at 1:45 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Once I get all the cards I'll post my SI tree, which is looking beautiful this year.
There will be some stragglers this year. The gift that keeps in giving.
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.
maise ( member #69516) posted at 1:47 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
I love all of the cards, this is my first year participating and it’s been so exciting to open them and see all the glitter and creativity! Thank you all 😊
I bought a super cute Christmas card holder that I wanted to display them on but it won’t arrive until after Christmas!! (BOOOOOO!) I guess at least I’ll have it here for future years so I can display all the lovely SI cards.
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 8:22 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Last time I participated, I got most of them all at once in a nice little bundle. Yesterday I just got the one from BraveSirRobin and TimeSpiral. I had no idea it was SI related, so I just full on opened it without caution, and ended up with a ginormous glitter explosion in my office.
Should have known better... 
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 8:28 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Should have known better.
Still makin' those rookie mistakes, huh Losfer?
I'm just so excited people are starting to receive them - more moments of joy more better.
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 8:36 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
With all the glitter that I'm told exploded out of them along the way, I'm surprised there was any left 😂
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 8:43 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
And who on earth sent a padded envelope???
That would be us. I inherited a tote box full of old stamps and decided to make use of the free postage.
I'm relieved they made it, because the postal distribution centers around here are so packed that they've told us to pretty much forget about getting parcels delivered in time for Christmas!
TX1995 ( member #58175) posted at 10:13 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
TX1995 and lieshurt: Show off-y Texas folks....
You never know with 2020. I had a package from Old Navy that went from Nevada, to California, to a town 15 minutes from my house in Texas, then to Atlanta (?), and then here. Took about 3 weeks total. Those poor postal workers this year really have their jobs cut out for them! I'm glad cards and glitter are showing up in boxes all over now.
I'm the BS. WH had an EA/PA with a cOW. DDay was 4/17. Working on R. Married 15 years and together 20 at DDay.
DDay #2 and #3 6/19. Grew a conscience and admitted a full blown physical affair.
Current and forever status is reconciling. I don't
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 10:46 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Here's the tree so far. I'm certain there will be a few more, and I might post an update if I figure out how to not make the picture enormous.
ETA: OK, that isn't so bad. It was huge in the preview mode!
[This message edited by Tred at 4:47 PM, December 20th (Sunday)]
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 11:26 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Very nice pic, Tred. You have received more than I have to date and I see my card arrived.
I also didn't get any "padded" envelope yet either.... 
Looks like BSR has something special again this year.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 11:46 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Yay Tred you got mine too! I know at least a couple people got mine... I was a tad worried about not having enough postage so I'm relieved!
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
JBWD ( member #70276) posted at 11:58 PM on Sunday, December 20th, 2020
Guys this has MADE the season! My creativity was very low this year but regardless I absolutely LOOOVE these!
DD and DS have been chuckling along as we open these with a process somewhat akin to dismantling a bomb(!)
I love them and am so thankful to count so many friends here on SI!!!
Me: WH (Multiple OEA/PA, culminating in 4 month EA/PA. D-Day 20 Oct 2018 41 y/o)Married 14 years Her: BS 37 y/o at D-Day13 y/o son, 10 y/o daughter6 months HB, broken NC, TT Divorced
Outoflove2020 ( member #72682) posted at 12:35 AM on Monday, December 21st, 2020
Holy crap your weren’t joking about the glitter. I’m glad I was knew in advance - I put down paper on my counter to catch it all when I opened the envelopes.
Thank you, thank you, thank you all. It has really made my evening
😍😍😍😍
DDay 1/15/2020.
Separated 3/1/2020
Still healing but in a better place
Hedwig ( member #74175) posted at 12:53 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020
Omg, it's soo nice to see all you getting them. Tred, I was scanning your picture to see if you've received mine but no luck so far!
Mine haven't arrived yet. I have already checked my mailbox twice as much as usual, but I think the checking will only increase in the next couple of days. SO EXCITEEDDD
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Dday - 10/2018
Caught them, EMDR helped
Ended the relationship after false R for 1,5 years
lieshurt ( Administrator #14003) posted at 2:00 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020
Holy crap your weren’t joking about the glitter.
After the first year, I was very careful about how to open the cards. I lay out newspaper on the table and have a bowl that I empty glitter into. I wear latex gloves and I use a paint brush to brush the glitter from the cards. I also use some static guard to keep the glitter from sticking. I then use a funnel to empty the glitter into a clear plastic ornament. I write the year on it in gold marker and attach some ribbon.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 3:40 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020
I see that mine made it as well. Yay! So glad t see people are receiving them. I haven’t received any as of yet but I have my glitter-mat-suit at the ready. 🎅🎄
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
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