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Y'all, seriously.

I couldn't sell a book based on my life because it's just so ridiculous.

First, the good news. JM is doing well. He started learning EMDR this week with his therapist and feels very hopeful. And he is sleeping with the meds and no nightmares.

Yesterday was my last day of work for a LONG time. I was able to sit down on Tuesday with the assistant DON with whom I was clashing and we talked a lot of stuff out. She had no idea the things I was dealing with at home, and also did not know a lot of the back story with the flu shots and other issues at work. She was genuinely sorry for her crack about going through a divorce and not yelling at anyone. So I am glad to have some peace there. I couldn't deal with the constant anger.

First thing yesterday though, I got a call from the ortho office. I'd called on Monday as instructed for my preop interview at the hospital. They didn't call me back until Wednesday afternoon and then left a message just before 5 pm that I might need cardiac clearance. Because of a procedure I had 15 years ago and have never had a recurrence of symptoms. Was cut loose from the cardiologist around 2009. I also had a cardiac workup last year after my long COVID symptoms with shortness of breath, and that was clear. Waited all day before I found out the anesthesiologist cleared me.

Then our ds23 called from the city a couple of hours away where he was spending his birthday week with his fiancee, planning to come back on Monday. His truck broke down so JM had to drive there and then return with ds and the truck.

I thought I'd take a nice relaxing bath. And it was...

until I let the water out and the toilet and shower started making very strange and loud noises.

And our septic tank threw up.

Seriously. So JM and the guys are doing whatever horrible labor is involved with fixing the septic system and then fixing the clutch on ds's truck. And I just want to go to bed until Monday morning when I can get some good drugs before my surgery.

Can whoever has the little voodoo doll that is fat and limping with a sparkly cane just quit f*cking with me and play with someone else for a while???

Awe my dear you've gone through so much.

I'm so happy to hear JM is doing better.

As for your son and his truck....vehicles never fail to be jerks at the worst possible time.

Septic....omg I know that problem. Praying you guys can fix it. And quick.

Perhaps I need to make you a poppet and send peace and healing mojo to you. And do a counter spell to destroy that voodoo doll

Sending you lots of hugs.

(((Hugs))) Septic issues— ugh. I hope things settle down over the weekend and you can get some peace b/4 your surgery.

(((((HFSSC))))))))
Honey you have to have good things heading your way. So prayers/fingers crossed that Monday the tide turns, and you have an amazing recovery and outcome.

Well, at least you had a bath before the septic tank vomited....

That's good news about JM and EMDR, not to mention his ability to fix the truck and the septic tank. You and JM have been through a lot.

The initial success with EMDR and the reasonable hope that your surgery will help ... those are good things coming your way.

I have the same hope that tush does; great surgery, rapid recovery.

WTF??????

Aw honey, I'm sorry for all the crap (literally and figuratively!!). But hey, things can only go up from here, right? (or did I just say the WRONG THING!!)

((((HF))))

Hugs, hugs, and wishes for a better day/week/month.

Sending you good juju!

Lots of prayers that surgery goes perfectly, the meds are great, and you get plenty of much needed rest!

So sorry about the septic tank. I’m here moaning the fact that my hall bathroom has a leak in the pipes going to the shower.

What is that old story about people facing tough stuff, and so they each wroth down their stuff and threw it in a jar. Then each person pulled out one of the papers and would have those problems/challenges be their own.
And after after a time, everyone decided that they would rather go back to their own challenges.

To me it’s one reason I appreciate people sharing…that I have the opportunity to focus on others and get my chin up about my own shit!

I know you will come through this with flying colors!!!