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I don’t even know what to say

Today has been particularly difficult

Hoping saying it here gets it off my chest

Hang in there, JW. It gets better, but the journey to get there totally sucks.

One day at a time JW. It will get better, it just takes time and work.

Hey Jammy. You’ve been heard. I hope you get a good night sleep and that tomorrow is better.
Hang in there.

Thanks
Haven’t slept great

These messages helped

It is just so painful isn’t it you have to feel the pain

And then crawl out of it

It is so hard to get an emotional grip

Some days it’s all you can do to just brush your teeth. Or take a shower. Or eat something.

We get it.

How can we help you?

Feeling calmer now

It was like a wave of grief I think

About the life I thought was ahead of me

This evening I feel a glimmer of hope that there’s a better future for me

JW

Sometimes I think it’s harder around the holiday season. All the movies and happy families and all that stuff - yet we are BS and struggling to survive each day.

We all survive this. Some better than others. But from dark hole many of us have climbed out of and thrived.

Have faith in yourself.

Yes - and our divorce process is just commencing

I have been stuck in a pit of sorrow accepting its over

My marriage is over
There
I said it

There;s no platitudes or sayings that really make this easier.
But acceptance

Yes, your marriage is ending. AND your next chapter is being.
Reframing can help your brain see both sides .

It just sucks. And the comes around in waves.
Hang in there.

Yes barely that helps

A lot

One day the pain inside will feel like a distant memory

What’s hurting right now is that he did this
I thought he was such a decent man

So it is a feeling of disappointment in the person I thought was the best person in the world

And a feeling of hurt that this person hurt me more than any one has ever hurt me

It’s like I am getting skewered by the pain and stuck in it

((((Hugs))))

This, too, shall pass.

It's rough to accept, but better and sunnier days are ahead. Believe it, even if you don't feel it.

JW

It is awful when you are hurt by the person you love the most. And by the person you trusted the most.

It’s too painful when the person morphs into someone else. It was always the person they are now but just hid it behind a facade.

Infidelity is the most painful thing a person experiences IMO. It’s anger, betrayal, grief and devastation +++ all rolled up together.

Consider counseling for yourself. It saved my sanity during my H’s affair and plans to D me.

So sorry for you.

Thanks

Life is going to be different to what I imagined

I will try to internalise what you all say - that the future will be better

It may not seem like it now, but you will get through this. One minute at a time sometimes. Very, very slowly you will get better at getting through these waves. And then the waves will come more spread apart. Each time, you will get stronger. Lean on the people around you and on this site and take as much time as you need. Go easy on yourself.

Everyone on here is so kind

I have to communicate with him around the kids, one has additional needs

It’s hard

He denies it was an affair, still (began after I left) but the truth is obvious

It’s nice to talk on here and feel a bit healed/that there is a better future

I mean it’s good that the pain is acknowledged but at the same time the need to keep in mind life will improve is good

[This message edited by JammyWheel at 7:33 PM, Wednesday, December 21st]

How do you accept this?

He had done something terrible to me and friends have stayed friends with him; turned a blind eye.
He has been the one invited to their parties, weekends away, sometimes with Her and sometimes with our kids
He’s denied an affair
Said he left then they got together and friends have accepted that (though I hope some will put two and two together, I was pregnant when he left and carer to our other child - no way would I have asked him to leave!)