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This weekend has been hectic and so busy. On Saturday WH, myself and our eldest sons were all in a team for a charity soccer carnival. We had such a blast. Then Sunday was full of house chores, work for myself and the eldest boy and a party for the youngest son.

When I was cooking dinner and chatting to WH Sunday night completely exhausted I looked at him and realised not once over the weekend did I feel awful or bad. I felt completely normal all weekend.

Previous to this I would always feel like someone might see through us. That they could tell my marriage was a lie and filled with infidelity (that may sound dumb). But not once did I feel this way. I felt like a normal couple. And the only issue we had was when I got up him for arguing with the ref 😂

This was a good weekend 💚

Glad you had a great weekend. Accept the good times and acknowledge the bad.

I know that feeling that everyone can see through you. I felt like I was being fake by not telling everyone. My therapist helped me understand that we weren’t being fake, we were a real couple going through a rough personal period and I didn’t need to share with anyone unless I wanted to. I’m glad you had a good weekend. I feel like the tide changes almost suddenly and you start to have more good days than bad. One word of caution though- the bad days still feel like they’re never going to end sometimes. I was keeping a journal and made a point to read my own writing on good days so I knew it was something achievable again.

This is the part of the journey where your lizard brain will say "wait! shouldn’t I be doing something infidelity recovery related?" Then you realize maybe it’s ok to relax and maybe enjoy the moment you and your H find yourself in.

Progress.