Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 2:54 AM on Saturday, December 13th, 2025
He wants you to be the one who leaves. Then he can date the OW because you left him. I hope you are talking to a bulldog of an attorney to make sure you have your finances protected.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:52 AM on Saturday, December 13th, 2025
Spot on Cooley.
My H did the same thing and I think he was hoping I would be the one to file for D. This way he could tell himself that I left him and he had no part in it and make himself look good to the kids.
Missmee, I know your kids will be disappointed if you D. But you cannot stay with someone who is just being a jerk to you.
And yes, at some point, the kids need to know that. Otherwise they may blame you for the D and that is unfair to you as well.
I’m sorry you are living with him. You deserve better than this and the mental anguish is going to continue unfortunately. For some reason cheaters believe they are the prize and that they can say and do whatever they want to their spouse — especially during the affair.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
