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Man, there goes my hero….
I get it he is a rock star, still so disappointed! I have been a huge fan over the years. I can’t imagine how much complexity having a child outside your marriage adds. I know we have members this has happened to but I think that is a death knell.

Oh, Dave. Sigh. What happened to you?

I used to adore him, but he pissed me off when he was shitty to Taylor Swift. And now this. Maybe he's acting out due to grief from losing Taylor Hawkins? Who knows.

Man, there goes my hero….

This was excellent.

[This message edited by SacredSoul33 at 10:35 PM, Tuesday, September 10th]

I can’t imagine how much complexity having a child outside your marriage adds. I know we have members this has happened to but I think that is a death knell.

Baby, so 18 years worth of him being there for the other child. Hard to believe. I don't see any marriage surviving that. Especially a high publicity one. My guess is that they separate within a year.

[This message edited by grubs at 11:11 PM, Tuesday, September 10th]

I’m not even a huge fan and this made me so sad! His poor wife and kids.

I know it’s stupid because I don’t even know him or his family, but it just reinforced this idea that there are no musicians that don’t cheat and that I don’t want to be with one of them (WS is a musician who refuses to leave his band). Also had Dave Grohl down as a ‘good guy’, although his Taylor Swift comments seemed a little childish and uncalled for.

Surprised at how much this news got to me!

[This message edited by user4578 at 11:19 PM, Tuesday, September 10th]

So the Taylor Swift thing sounded bad in the media, but my understanding is one of his daughters was being bullied by swifts fans. I think it was his way of saying "come at me instead". I think that is why she didn’t really do anything or say anything but a short quip back.

I know his first marriage ended in infidelity, and in his book "The Storyteller" he talks about going to Neil Young’s house and seeing a rock star can have a successful family life. At the time, Young was still married to his wife of 30+ years. And Dave went on to have a long marriage to Jordyn. His book was deeply moving -"and funny and it made me really like him as a person. I closely followed him ever since, because as stupid as it sounds I really looked up to many things about him. His story to me was pretty inspirational.

[This message edited by hikingout at 11:41 PM, Tuesday, September 10th]

I get it--rock stars. Can they really NOT pursue the ego kibbles and the extra everything?

Sigh. I thought (wanted?) Dave to be the role model, better than the others. Huge fan. I had him on a bit of a pedestal, so I feel really disappointed today.

The news made me feel worse about myself actually. It triggered my shame. I just wanted someone to get it right.

Has Bono ever cheated? I was watching his daughter in The Perfect Couple on Netflix (triggery show but the ending felt empowering actually) and thought, "Bono is getting it right. It can be done." I hope that's true. I know I should not attach anything to what celebrities do, but I have always wanted to find people who have every opportunity and freedom and STILL do the right thing because those people give me hope for the rest of us. I thought that person was Dave Grohl. Damn.

Yeah, I’ve been a fan of Dave Grohl’s too and this is very disappointing. (His drum-offs with that little girl were adorable and epic.)
He cheated before and didn’t do the work to really change. Very sad.

(And excellent use of lyrics, HO!!)

My W loves Journey. I have told her since Dday that the song "Faithfully" is absolute bullshit. No way Steve Perry was out on the road "faithfully".

Long time cheater, first time OC.

"Best of You" sounds much different to me now.

My heart breaks for Jordyn Blum. Infidelity is painful and humiliating enough and dealing with an OC is a nightmare... but to have go through all of this under a public spotlight is a special kind of hell.

Jordyn, if you happen to be looking for infidelity resources and you come across this thread, I hope you'll sign up to post anonymously or stay and lurk. We have hundreds of years of collective experience and wisdom to share with you. Although you're situation is unique in that your husband is famous, all infidelity experiences have, sadly, more commonalities than differences.

We're here for you and you're safe with us.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 2:08 PM, Wednesday, September 11th]

NO winners [except for hikingout and her excellent use of phraseology].

His poor wife, his poor children, that poor baby. I don't know how this would be survivable particularly in the fishbowl they live in.

NOTHING but SHAME AND SHADE for the babymama and DG at this point.

I secretly wonder if he came clean only because the paternity test was positive and he couldn't pay her off to be quiet about it all. I also think that deleted post was either from babymama or a close family/friend and was taken down due to an attorney's decree. That was a prepared statement and challenge of sorts to his wife/children. And it was too detailed to be completely made up and fake by someone who had no knowledge.

I still think DG has some more coming clean to do. He's still in damage control mode.

This is such a sad situation for his wife and all the children.

I read today that his timing in releasing this info was placed around a recent political event to help divert the public's short attention span away from him. That just made me feel even slimier towards him.

I also made the mistake of reading the viral post of the fake OC account. From what I've read, the only additional comments he's made were to debunk the fake account. That someone would sensationalize the pain of others is horrible.

I secretly wonder if he came clean only because the paternity test was positive and he couldn't pay her off to be quiet about it all.

I think that’s possible.

My nice theory if he is involved with this child he is going to be seen with her. I know with his other children he went to their school events.

My darker theory- This is a young woman. There have been rumors this wasn’t a groupie but someone his wife knew. I am a little worried it’s either a nanny or a friend of his oldest daughter, or someone who when it comes out would look very bad that he didn’t help her with the baby. A one night stand groupie or even someone a little older and more established would not read that way.

Im many years out. But man this pisses me off. How fing stupid can you be? It's not like he is a young man just finding fame. This is a man who has been famous and had groupies and many ego kibbles for decades. Idiot.

I am so disappointed. This isn't my "Dave" and if I found put the Dave I admire and follow did this I would be done. No more concerts, no more trips to concerts, no more gear wearing their stuff. Nothing is impossible or surprising anymore. But I certainly hope he never does something so stupid.

Count me deeply disappointed too. I have always been a huge fan, and admired his public persona. I did get a little icky feeling when he dissed Taylor Swift, but I ignored it because I liked who I thought he was so much. I put him on a pedestal, like my WH, and I made my good guy DG up in my own imagination, I guess. His music really helped me through the toughest of the infidelity years and is all over my healing playlists. Times like these is - was ? - my favorite song and my anthem because I was and still am learning how to live and love again. Time and time again.

I hate that I still have to keep learning that people can surprise me in awful ways. I don’t care that he was a rock star with groupies, but I care that he let his wife believe the lie of his love and commitment while he lived a lie behind her back, hiding behind a fake image. For years. The disrespect. I don’t know how his daughters are ever supposed to respect him again. He has blown up all their lives very publicly.

I keep waiting for his wife to file for divorce. I’m moving on to some new artists and taking a break from a now triggery former favorite.