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That’s amazing Sisoon!! I lived in Chicago for three years—long enough to know that finding free parking can be hard to do!

..just dropped in for a bit of reading.. skipped to page 38 to read the most recent posts. wow.. there was a lot of good stuff mentioned by our members and their reasons to be thankful. Being old and seeing more and more family and friends die was particularly touching since I'm in that club. (soon to be 78)

As for being thankful, I can say I am on all 7 days of the week. My wife of 52 and a half years has shown both remorse and regret for her choices. I think we will make it 'til death do us part! I continue to enjoy her fantastic cooking and baking...not to mention her enthusiastic love-making

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..sorry.. make that page 37...

Good to see you SMY, you were big part of my JFO era. Glad things are going well.

So it’s only Wednesday but I’m thankful.

Almost 3 years ago on discovery the pain I felt was awful. It took 2 and a half years to get myself in a better place. But I’m now in a better place.

So I’m thankful that I didn’t give up on myself. That I found a way through my darkest times.

Now my social circle is a lot bigger. I have people ring and text me all the while. I have met new people and reconnected with old. My husband was a huge priority to me before, maybe a 75% priority now he’s probably 5%. I do nice things for him but I spread my kindness around FAR more people.

I connect everywhere. Chat to everyone. I joined a new group. I have immersed myself in a new topic of interest. I’ve regained my rebellious stance on issues that matter to me

I’m thankful for all of this.

Thanks guys for reminding me that there are loyal, kind, generous people in the world. I wish I could hug you all, drink coffee and chat.

When it was really dark I used to remember some of your screen names and I thought about you (I’ve not shared my pain with anyone else except all you). It brought me comfort.

So Thankyou.

And to anyone reading this who is traumatised and feels it will never end. You will get through it. Light a candle, or listen to a song, or hold a favourite item or smell a favourite scent and remember there are good people out there who are loyal and kind and true. We are rooting for you.

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Today I'm thankful that the weather is a little warmer, that most of the snow is melted, and that I can start thinking about my garden plans for the year, even if it’s too early to put them in place.

And ABC, what a beautiful post! Thank you for sharing; it warmed my heart.

HAPPY Thankful Thursday everyone !! It feels GOOD to be back on here...kind of !! One thing about being OLD...you never know what is going to happen with your health. One day you feel fine...and then next you end up in the hospital !! Thankfully my health issue wasn't as bad as was first thought...and I am out and on the mend. It took a little while though. That is another thing about being OLD...you don't heal as quickly as you used to .

During this time...my H ended up in the hospital too ! Oh gosh...what a weird holiday season we had this year...another FIRST for us !!! He is thankfully on the mend as well and we are BOTH so thankful to just be able to spend our healing time TOGETHER!!

I wanted to come on here and put the Thankful Thursday thread back on the first page...I thought that it was probably on the 10th or 11th page by now. But thanks to some of you...it was only on the 2nd page...COOL!!! GRIEVING...you are amazing to resurrect this post . It made my heart SMILE to see it still going on...THANK YOU for that !!

I don't know how much I will be on here...it was a little selfish of me to stay off...sorry! But it just isn't where I am anymore. I vowed I would keep paying it forward though...so I know I NEED to keep coming back and giving newbies on here HOPE that there IS life after infidelity...and it can be very very GOOD !! Your M may not survive...but YOU definitely WILL !!!

For ME...my 1st M didn't survive...and I am so THANKFUL it didn't...because it lead me to my 2nd H . YES...he cheated on me too. But THIS time...he repented...and I gave him mercy...and he took it and never looked back. We worked HARD at our Mv2.0...and for THAT...I am very THANKFUL !!

W2BHA I am so glad that you and your husband are recovering, and I'm sorry I haven't been posting on your thread. It is a good one to keep active! I can't promise to come on Thursdays, but I'll contribute

I am thankful for W2BHA's flagrant use of emojis and for the care that she received.

I am thankful for Starbucks Vanilla Sweet Cream Nitro Cold Brew and all these silly and highly specific ways that our culture provides for people to care for themselves.

I am thankful for swimming on Wednesday mornings with my friend.

I am so thankful for my husband, my family, and this very moment.

Dear W2BHA, I hope that you are doing well down there in cajun country. I will add you to my SI/specific prayer list if you would like (I don't do that unless people agree).

Today I am thankful for: my husband and my children, for God guiding my children even though they do not yet have a personal relationship, for my mother, and the growing closeness with the rest of the family. I am thankful for my pandemic puppy, an unexpectedly good pomegranate, and the image of the woman with nard in Mark 14 that I have been pondering.

Please check in when you get a chance!

W2B, I am only just now seeing your February 27th post—I’m kind of off and on, and I think it might have gotten buried under all those awful spam posts for a little bit.

Anyway, it’s not Thursday, but I’m very grateful for the guidance and kindness you provided me when I was earlier among my recovery and reconciliation journey. You helped me a lot.

I hope you and your husband are both fully recovered from what ailed you and that you are having a nice spring/lenten season.

Dear W2BHA, I hope you are well. I heard something about Cajuns from Acadia and thought of you.

I am grateful for the time spent with my children all together, my husband whispering to me that his life is happier than he could have imagined, an unexpectedly good pomegranate, and a couple of new summer dresses. None of those words capture the fullness of the grateful feeling. I am grateful for all of the healed relationships in my life - without even being intentional, there is healing happening in such unexpected places. I am grateful for my health and I hope I have many more years to live.

I hope you are not checking in as often because you and your husband are off doing whatever it is you love to do, and that you are enjoying your time together now that you are both at home.

I hope this isn't TMI.

We got together when I was 21 and W2b was 20. We decided to marry at 22. I really liked W2b's looks.

One thing that concerned me was how I'd feel at 60 with a 60 year old W. 60 is now well in the past, and I'm grateful and happy to say she still turns me on.

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Hello Thankful Thursday, This is Friday but yesterday (Thursday) I took the day off to get some projects done around the house. My W was in town running errands so I went to Lowe's, when I came out there was a note on my windshield "I love you" with a smiley face. I called my W and told her there is lady in the Lowe's parking lot looking for me. She said "No she's next door at Hobby Lobby". I went into Hobby Lobby and found my W out in the wild. The thing is I had to get out of there, shopping at Hobby Lobby with my W is so frustrating, she looks at everything and tells me how cute everything is. I got my kiss and got the hell out.

That’s so sweet, Tanner. I have a feeling my husband feels the exact same way about going into hobby lobby with me. 😂

I’m thankful for a change of pace next week. This is the time of year that teaching starts to feel super exhausting, and I had a perfect storm of student and colleague behavioral/medical issues today. Everyone is fine and I love them all, but next week Im chaperoning another group of kids (including my own kid) to a state competition for a couple days, and I’m very grateful for some different scenery.