SurvivingInfidelity.com^®

This site has a strict guideline about naming, flaming and shaming.

I urge posters to remember that there are people behind the anonymity of their user-name. We generally know little about these people, including age, experience, emotional status… I doubt there is any benefit at all in asking, implying or suggesting someone is a fool, even if the action they are taking might be considered foolish by most of us.

It takes a lot of pain to find a need to go online and search for a support forum for infidelity. It’s not as if being cheated on is a choice or a hobby. It’s a crisis we are sucked into – or for the WS here – a crisis they helped create but by being here indicate they understand their accountability. Reading here is probably tough, but immensely tougher is creating an account and then sharing your story. Asking complete strangers for help. Those are not the actions of anybody that is a fool.

First, I am so sorry that this happened to you. How incredibly painful. Your girlfriend seriously messed up. One thing to keep in mind is that she did this while your relationship is still relatively new and in the "honeymoon" phase. What will happen if you are in the drudgery of child rearing? One of you loses a job? You get very sick? or you're "just not feeling it" in your relationship?

Reconciliation is very difficult and painful. As you don't have children together, aren't married, and don't live together... I would advise you to walk away.

Thx "Mr Bigger" for support. I have same problem here about calling me fool about this incident by my friends. Thats why i come here to share my story. I m just really in love with her and cant let her go even though she did this to me. I tried to but my emotion cant. Can i DM u for some details of problems with my girl?

Brother so very sorry your here! Yes you love her, no doubt by what you say. Step back from this and realize the seriousness of what she has done! She went on some unspecified trip with other men? Then as she has stated had a 3 some? Wonder if it was recorded?

I suggest you look a video somewhere of a woman engaged in a MMF, then think of what she actually did while being committed to you! Can you really live with that? Ate you both mutually exclusive and said this one another? This an absolutely disgusting thing to your relationship. Dont be fooled, cheaters lie, lie and then even lie more! If you have any selfrespect and dignity, regardless of your proffesed love for her, I strongly urge you walk away now, suffer the loss of the relationship, because to continue will put you on a path of more pain and humiliation. Do you know who then men were even? Have you talked and spent time with them? If so how can you ever look them in the face knowing this on both sides, knowing they are laughing at you that you a so willing to allow this from her.

Run, dont walk away from all this! You Will recover, life will go on and you will meet another woman, fall in love and she will love and respect you!

Again.so sorry your here, but listen to what all the posters saying and save yourself from futher pain, disrespect and humiliation!

[This message edited by Dagrump at 8:24 PM, Tuesday, December 27th]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm no pro here but I will say, she's oy your girlfriend. Not wife. So run as far and as fast as you can. My husband showed red flags while dating. The first inappropriate thing I KNOW OF was 5 years ago when he was caught secretly talking to an old classmate and once good friend of mine. Her husband reached out to me when found out. Then in 2019 he sexted a coworker which I found. Now I just found all kinds of other stuff and he's not even sorry. He's angry at ME for discovering it and being aggressive.

We have 5 beautiful kids or I would've left years ago. Now I'm planning my exit after 12 wasted years with him. He doesn't respect me. Doesn't give basics. Isn't remorseful when he is caught. Spins it like I'm crazy instead.

My point is, you are not tied to this woman. No reason to tolerate this. The more you put up with and forgive, the more they take advantage. Sleeping with ONE coworker is bad enough. But TWO?! SHE has major issues. You cannot fix her. Love her more. It is her problem and only when she sees it and addresses it will she Mayne do something about it.

My advice, cut your losses. Run. You deserve much more.

Watch what happens in a threesome with two guys and a girl on a porn website on your computer then rip the band-aid off and run or It will haunt you forever like my unfortunate situation of finding out so many years later, Im still disgusted after 23 years.....run!