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Ok. I guess I didn’t realize. But when your marriage is illegal because your ex is a bigamist, the courts can annul your marriage without your signature.

24 years and it is over. Dissolved.

No one cared to ask me for anything.

Kinda hurts to know your life as you knew it, never really was

Wow. I'm so sorry Tallgirl. I just can't imagine. You must feel so invisible. There is nothing worse. But at least it's done and you are free. Free to be Tallgirl in all her glory.

Charity.

Invisible is a good word for it. I didn’t think of that.

Just an email recipient.

And thank you. 😊

That would be trippy. And really unpleasant. I’m sorry the system forgot that you are a living feeling human being.
I hope it does mean the start of an amazing new beginning for you to live your tallest life :-)

You feel bad because of the person you are. You certainly did not deserve this.

Tallgirl, I can empathize why you'd feel this way, I mean the bigamy thing on top of the adultery is insane for sure. But you have your truth, which is that your intentions were honest, you lived by that, and whatever the legal situation was doesn't define your history. Stand tall, be proud of the life that you lived, and go forward to a better future. Big hug.

I'm sorry that it hurts I can understand especially the whole thing being a lie. I felt that my whole M was a lie as I found out many more D-Days that happened previously to when I discovered his first A. There are no words for that feeling. It does feel like time wasted. At least I know the time I spent with my children, friends and family were real.

I hope that this begins a new slate for you to have a full life filled with many new memories and amazing times ahead.

Tallgirl, you have been heard. I am sorry you feel invisible in this whole matter. Sending support. I agree with BrokenheartedUK that your life is genuine and real. Your commitment and devotion to your M and family is real. Your EXWH is the one who did not exist as he presented. He is a facade and invisible because he did not exist. You deserve the best moving forward. Good luck.

Sending ((virtual hugs)). This stuff is so hard. I am very sorry you experienced this.
All of the feelings we have are genuine and valid.

I am so sorry.

Sending you a virtual hug (and a tall glass of your favorite beverage).

Thank you all. I appreciate your kind words with gratitude.

Now we are discussing should we tell our adult children. Ex doesn’t want to. I do.

I think they deserve the truth

[This message edited by Tallgirl at 5:53 PM, Thursday, August 24th]

Man Tallgirl I can't imagine how hard this is for you.

As for telling your adult kids, you should do what YOU think is right. Lord knows that man doesn't have a good grasp of right from wrong so trust yourself and your children.

You don't have to answer this if it's too personal but how does the anullment impact a divorce settlement? Are you just left in the cold because you weren't "legally" married?

If you are discussing annulment, then I assume you're Catholic. In the 1950s and earlier there were like 600 annulments a year, worldwide. Now there are tens of thousands in the US. This isn't a change in the number of people going insane or brothers and sister unknowingly marring one another. It is the annulment process that has taken hold since Vatican 2. I hurts because God hates divorce and you are a victim of the corrupted process. So sorry this is happening to you.

Not, did you even read her first post? She didn't ask for or want an annulment. The courts declared the marriage as invalid (annulled) because he was married to two people at the same time.

It's your opinion that God hates divorce. But we are in the divorce forum.

NP5, unbeknownst to TallGirl, her husband was still married to another woman when he married her, which means her marriage is invalid both in the eyes of the state and the Church (if she’s Catholic).