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Fun day! Nice start to summer! K

Drgn I'm happy to see you are establishing a new normal.
I'm happy your kids are doing well essentially. Keep on keeping on. Before you know it life will be in a new groove with happy kids and no worries about your X as he has moved on.
Love those kids. The teen years bring a whole new set of challenges. You are strong and brave. You got this.

Hi, Drgn, great update on your family despite all of the hardships all of you have faced over the past year.

Sounds like M is really stepping up to help your children experience fun and some normalcy. I'm sure you are very grateful for him, what a fun day for all of you! You are brave to attempt one coaster! Not me, hell no!

I hope your children have a great summer, IMO your new normal is much more peaceful than the old normal. May not seem like it quite yet, but your lives are falling into place without the 200-lb burden wreaking havoc in your home and making all of your lives miserable.

We definitely needed a day to cut loose and have fun.

I won't be doing any big coasters any time soon though lol

I needed to share something with ya'all because it made me laugh.

Most of the province is under some sort of weather statement. I follow a weather page on FB and they posted their Thunderstorm Risk Level chart.

We are currently in the Stong section: possible tornado, golf ball sized hail, widespread wind damage.

The "slight" section before that made me laugh.

MAX HAIL SIZE: twoonie to tidbit.

Only in Canada would we rate hail size by the size of our money and donuts.

Twonie and a timbit!!!!!!

Thanks, I needed that laugh today!!

For us it's golf balls and baseballs

Hahahaha. That's hysterical. We desperately need a new roof and with each spring storm I have awaited hail ready to record. With items in my pocket to identify size including golf balls, tennis ball, and a quarter.
My H took a hunting trip to the great white North last Sept. I think I have a toomie in my windowsill from change he brought back.

Well we didn't get any hail but man the wind was awful. We also all got a shelter now alert on our phones due to a possible tornado. That freaked the kids out. Luckily nothing happened.

I must say after the brunt of the storm passed we were all amazed at the double rainbow, pink/purple lightening and bright orange sky. The lot of us were taking photos and videos. Dd and little M got video of lightening going across the sky.

The twins had their year end trip at Medieval Times. Dd's trip was a baseball game. She got back at 1am. Ds has his trip next week.

There's a family movie night at the school this coming week. Did it last year and it was fun.

Hey all.

I want to share some good news.

My dad has been officially declared "In Remission". No more chemo meds.

While I'm very happy, I admit that quality of life over quantity is really a focus of my own health now.

Since diagnosis, my father has gone down hill, physically of course, but also mentally. Sure they killed the cancer but it appears they also destroyed his brain. He mumbles. He isn't always aware of where he is, who he's with, what has happened etc. He is a shell of the person he once was.

It's hard to see.

I took my parents to their eye doc appointment this week and discovered that there's a huge problem. K may have drove them to appointments but he never went in with them. Dad was supposed to be getting daily drops. Mom thought it was "just until the bottle was done". In fact it's forever. Dad has glaucoma. The drops help reduce the pressure in his eyes. Luckily there's been no change to his sight since his last appointment.

I can see that mom is deteriorating. Her grief is still so fresh and her focus isn't there anymore. She definitely has no patience.

Dad is slow to do things and I was able to support him while allowing him to do things for himself.

I have way more patience than mom has.

It's alot of running around for me now but at least I can get things done correctly for them.

Mom told me the cancer doc said that now he's off chemo he may regain some of his faculties. Not sure how true that is.

Edited because I tapped the screen by accident and the text window disappeared. All I coukd do was post then edit to continue typing. Weird.

[This message edited by DragnHeart at 4:54 PM, Wednesday, June 19th]

Aging parents is a challenge. Add cancer to the mix and yuck.

I went with my dad to a doctor appointment after his first stroke and learned how much he lied about things (like drinking). Eye opening for me.
No advice— my dad died shortly after that so it was a short term thing, but I hear you and understand.

And fingers crossed that he recovers some of his faculties. Is there any kind of occupational therapy or something that can help him?

Chemo brain is a very real thing. Often patients can improve as they recover. Make sure he is keeping his protein levels up which is often an issue. Porr appetite can contribute to low protein and Albin levels which contributes to a whole host of issues from no stamina to being shakes to brain not working and low energy levels.
Encourage him to add a protein shake to his evening or bedtime snack. If he isn't eating 3 meals a day or protein with each meal get him more shakes.
The supplements thar can help include the following: Vitamin D3, super B, alpha lipoic acid, Magnesium glycenate, and methylfolate or folic acid. All of these are OTC. Just make sure you get from a quality vitamin company.

Is there any kind of occupational therapy or something that can help him?

Oh probably. But he won't accept it. Just assisting him to sit down can be a challenge. After our trip he was exhausted (alot of walking and refused a wheel chair). He first sat in the family room where I brought him cool drinks. Then after a while he wanted to join my mother and I in the kitchen. When we tried to help him sit he kept pushing my mother's hand away. It can take him a few minutes to sit down and chances of him falling are high so mom insists on helping him. He wanted to do it on his own and he did, just not quickly.

Oh TushNurse. I'm encouraged by your post. Thank you!

If he does recover some mentally it will be wonderful. Although...becoming fully aware of K's death might be to much. We sometimes catch him with his hand on K's urn so I know he understands sometimes. Then others he can't remember his name.

I will make sure he's getting what you said. Again thank you.

I know I'm not around much and give little to this place but once again I ask for your prayers.

My dad is in the ICU.

Last week he fell and broke his ankle. Admitted to the local small hospital until there was a bed at the larger hospital while he waited for his appointment to see the orthopedic surgeon. Mom called today. When she arrived to visit with him this morning they were rushing him to trauma. He had vomited once, got cleaned up then vomited again but this time aspirated. He was intubated, sedated and put on a vent. His blood pressure crashed. They suctioned out 4 liters of fluid from his stomach. It's dark fluid.

The small hospital isn't equip with an ICU so they called in the Orange transport to a larger one. I got there and then brother M before he was taken.

By the time we all got down to the big hospital, he was on 2 blood pressure meds, antibiotics, steroids, extra fluids...

He goes for a CT in the morning. Doc isn't optimistic and has said because of dad's bone cancer any attempt at CPR if his heart stops will only do more damage than good. Oh and dad just got told he's in remission. Survived the cancer, gonna die from aspiration. That's irony for ya.

I need sleep so I just ask for any positive mojo, prayers ect.

Thank you

Sending prayers and hugs.

Sending prayers. Lots of prayers.

Sending mojo….

Sending strength mojo for everyone. Hope you got some sleep last night.

Prayers

I'm so confused.

Last night the doctor on call wasn't very optimistic about dad's chances.

Today, new doctor who said dad isn't dying. He's sick, very sick but not "prepare the funeral" sick. Not yet anyways. All his numbers are getting better. Blood pressure meds have been reduced, he is breathing with the vent assisting.

There is something going on with his digestive system. They believe a blockage. He's having a CT right now.

Doc said that he was very dehydrated and that's why his kidney function went down but now with fluids he's getting better.

Dad is also moving around which is annoying the nurse lol because they have a direct line in his artery giving a real time blood pressure and every time he moves his arm it sets off the machine.

It feels less dire right now. At least I got mom to eat and M is heading down now eith dinner.

Well that news sounds more reasonable. Prayers must be helping. Sad that doctors seem to cast worse-case scenarios at the family, but often they do. I will continue to pray for Dad and your family!

I hava no doubt the prayers and good mojo is helping. Thank you all so much.

I am in awe of this hospital. A social worker came by with a package for us. Gives details about the ICU experience and what to expect. She said not to hesitate to call her if there's anything we need.

The nurses...omg amazing! They explained everything. What all 7 lines he has are, what they were doing when doing it. Just wow. They talked to my dad and told him what they were doing.

They repositioned him 3 times while we were there.

He's in good hands that's for sure.

Since we are all exhausted mom said she wants to stay home tomorrow and rest then get some things done she needs to do. The hospital Gabe her the direct line to the ICU and we were told if it's 2am and we can't sleep and want to know how dad is doing just call.

Dad was in the other hospital for 6 days and became so dehydrated that his kidneys stopped working. How the hell did they miss that?!? The nurse today asked if he had an IV while in the other hospital and he didn't until yesterday when he crashed.

He wasn't dehydrated when at home last week. It's just frustrating. Beats cancer, breaks his ankle and end up in the ICU due to aspirating vomit.