iamanidiot (original poster member #47257) posted at 12:19 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
From the minute he was born, our middle child was SO different from the other two boys.
The last AP supposedly had a vasectomy.
After DDay a lot of things came together in my head. I suspect the vasectomy thing was just a story to get the girls....
At that sage I was not aware of the A's, so I did not think OC.
But I should have.
The difference between the boys in their hair and skin colour, temperament, school achievements, sport etc was quite obvious.
I was lucky that I had too many other things to focus on.
At the time I was 30 years old, I had just started a new job (and was out of my depth). We bought an old house that needed major repair work. The three boys were under 6 years old and needed a lot of attention.
Maybe my subconscious knew a thing or two about helping me get through life?
Growing up, he has been a special child with such a great disposition, he is always everybody's friend.
The two of us landed up spending a lot of time together.
We even had a special song that I would sing to him when he was younger - to this day it is still our song.
He is also the only one to have worked with me for a while.
And now he and his wife have just had a baby together.
At 67, I have finally become a Grandfather, of a beautiful grandson - my pride and joy.
He looks just like his father, but......
I'm a Grandpa!!!!!!!! 
Me BS,57 Her WS,552 LTA & 2 ONS 30+years agoD-day 27/12/14At least I still have my sense of humor.I need it.Coming to grips with it all3 Adult childrenStill married
goingtomakeit ( member #11778) posted at 12:25 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congratulations!
There are lots of adopted children in the world, and their parents, while not bio parents, are their parents.
You are an awesome dad to your boys, and you will be an awesome grandpa
Me: BS (34 at d-day)Her: WS (35 at d-day)D-Day: 02/03/99Kids: 2 boys (5 & 3 at d-day)Married 9 years at d-day
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 1:15 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congratulations!!!
Your post made me smile. Thanks for sharing!!
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 2:12 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
There are lots of adopted children in the world, and their parents, while not bio parents, are their parents.
This!
We had a scare several years ago when test results implied that our IVF babies might not be "ours" due to laboratory error. Obviously, this raised many fears and feelings, but none were about the love we have for our kids. They will always be ours, no matter what biology might have had to say about it.
Congratulations, Grandpa!!
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 2:23 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congratulations Grandpa!!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:12 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congratulations!
There's an easy part and innumerable hard parts to being a father. You did the hard parts. Enjoy the rewards.
W & I are traveling to spend Thanksgiving with son and 15 year old, HS sophomore GS. We see them 3 times a year, so we're pretty pumped. GS is tall and very thin. He towers over both of us. My wish for you is innumerable joys of grandparenthood.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 5:27 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 6:01 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congrats on the grandkid. He’s fortunate to have you.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
Notsogreatexpectations ( new member #85289) posted at 6:46 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congrats! Enjoy the ride. I know you’ll find that the learning curve for a grandpa is pretty gentle.
WishidleftHer ( member #78703) posted at 7:44 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congratulations!
I should be so lucky, but I never will have grand kids.
Oldest daughter never wanted children. Younger daughters common law husband doesn't want any.
Me: BH 74. Her: WW 70 Dday over 35 years ago and still feels like yesterday.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 9:18 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Enjoy every single minute of it. It goes by waaaaaay too fast.
I found out I was gonna be Gma 3 years ago and it was not planned, expected, and they were not even kinda ready. My son is a wonderful father and my grandson is a wonderful amazing funny sweet smart little boy.
There is NOTHING better than being a Grand.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 9:32 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2024
Congratulations! I'm glad you have a beautiful relationship with him.
WH had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov '22. Dday4 Sep '23. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Staying for the teenager.
iamanidiot (original poster member #47257) posted at 9:01 AM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2024
Hi Everybody
You have helped me SO much.
I may not always have agreed with everybody, but the advice given was always worth thinking about.
Thank you for taking the time to respond.
I have been so lucky in my life, even during the bad times, somehow I was able to move on.
On that note, I think it is time to change my profile name to - I'm a Grandpa!!!!!!!!
Me BS,57 Her WS,552 LTA & 2 ONS 30+years agoD-day 27/12/14At least I still have my sense of humor.I need it.Coming to grips with it all3 Adult childrenStill married
Abcd89 ( member #82960) posted at 12:00 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2024
Congrats op.
I was adopted at birth and my relationship with my grandparents brought me so much happiness, and some amazing memories. They have died now but I think about them everyday. In fact I have grieved for them again while grieving this current rubbish situation. My amazing grandparents remind me there is good in the world.
You are very lucky.
Oldwounds ( member #54486) posted at 7:33 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2024
On that note, I think it is time to change my profile name to - I'm a Grandpa!!!!!!!!
It is time for that name change!
You never were an idiot — I’m still grateful for your help when I first got here.
And congrats IA Grandpa!!
Married 36+ years, together 41+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived.
M Restored
"It is better to conquer our grief than to deceive it." — Seneca
