Topic is Sleeping.
EllieKMAS (original poster member #68900) posted at 11:32 PM on Thursday, July 22nd, 2021
I am forty today.
My 30's were.... interesting. I learned a lot. About how strong I am. About how resilient I am. About my humor and my compassion and all the things that make me, ME. I honed in on a lot of things I want to work on too, which I am thankful for because I still have so much to learn and so much opportunity and capacity for change.
Taking all that learning I did in the last decade, my 40's are gonna be fucking amazing I feel 
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 11:37 PM on Thursday, July 22nd, 2021
Happy birthday!! You’ve reached the “ F it” forties- when you have no f&cks to give and don’t worry about what other people think!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 12:19 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
Congrats on being Fabulous and Forty, Ellie!! 
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Throwaway999 ( member #72413) posted at 1:28 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
Happy Birthday Ellie! I always love your posts and opinions! Celebrate you today…forties are the best!
Me - BS Him -WS DDay1 - 2011 EA with AP1DDay2/3 - found out in 2019 about EA/PA same AP1 -4 yr LTA affair ended 2017DDay4 - found out about LTA with ex-wife
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 2:49 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
Happy birthday! I'm a few years into my 40s and they've been fabulous! You're in for so much fun!!!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 2:50 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!
Life BEGINS at forty...so you sure put this thread in the right place!!! Here's to your wonderful new decade beginning !!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:38 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 5:49 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
grubs ( member #77165) posted at 2:24 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
I have a decade and a half on you but share the day. My 40s were awesome even with the D in the midst of them..
Happy Belated Birthday.
lieshurt ( Administrator #14003) posted at 2:46 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
J707 ( member #63778) posted at 7:15 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
Happy belated Birthday! I turned 40 last Saturday. Some people fear age but I welcome it. Bring it on!!
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 8:38 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 10:22 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
Happy birthday, woman! The forties are pretty fabulous.
DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).
somejaykid ( member #68835) posted at 10:36 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
Happy Birthday Ellie, i wish you the best and happiness.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 3:17 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021
Rock on! Forty and fabulous!
Your posts are ones of strength and positivity. I admire that.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Karmafan ( member #53810) posted at 6:20 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021
Happy belated birthday Ellie. My 40’s have been simply fabulous so far. It’s the age of really knowing and celebrating who you are 
Me 48 XWH Irrelevant D-day 23 Feb 163 amazing, resilient kids
You are not a drop in the Ocean, you are the entire Ocean in a drop
BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 9:20 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021
Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide
Sofarsogood ( member #71991) posted at 12:59 PM on Sunday, July 25th, 2021
You have such an awesome attitude! May your birthday be epic!
WarriorPrincess ( member #51806) posted at 4:44 PM on Sunday, July 25th, 2021
Some boys take a beautiful girl
And hide her away from the rest o' the world
I wanna be the one to walk in the sun
Oh girls, they wanna have fun....
(Cyndi Lauper)
Topic is Sleeping.
